My husband and I have been married for 10 years, with 4 adult children between us. We are older, 50s & 60's and childrens ages are between 30-40. We have no children together. I realize that we will interact with our exes from time to time, with Lifes milestone events, but not sure where to draw the line. Long story short, my husband and I are building a newer home on a very large piece of land, with most of our adult children planning to build on the same property. I found out yesterday that some of our Grandchildrens graduation pictures were taken of on the front porch, and on the grounds of our new home. I saw several of the pics, and who was in one of them? Husbands ex wife I feel this is REALLY dis-respectful towards me, but Husband says we all need to "blend" together??? I am not fond of his ex-wife at all, but I do tolerate her for childrens birthdays, etc. I am really confused on who I need to address this issue with. I know my Husband doesn't want to "make any waves" with these "grown adults". Since he doesn't think its a big deal, I'm not sure if I need to address this myself with his son, who Im sure invited his Mother, or talk with ex myself, and suggest that she try to find a bit of class, and refrain from coming onto my personal property?