[Beach123]

More than that ^^^ when does she carve out significant time with her family?

 

[DownByTheRiver]

@shakazulu2420 Is this the same wife as in your thread from 2014? Help--- wife spending too much time with single man, im...

She can't be trusted, can she?

You have children, how old are they? Still living at home?

It looks like there's a 2019 post that clarifies that him and his wife on that 2014 saga are divorced, so if that's the case then he's going through this same type scenario with a new wife, which makes me wonder how much of this is even valid.

 

[shakazulu2420]

It looks like there's a 2019 post that clarifies that him and his wife on that 2014 saga are divorced, so if that's the case then he's going through this same type scenario with a new wife, which makes me wonder how much of this is even valid.

So a man can't re marry? Jeeez. You think one would come here to write a tale? If you have nothing to add please you don't have to respond...

 

[shakazulu2420]

The statement about her boss is quite telling. A piece of advice that I've always lived by - a woman will tell you what she's up to, you just have to listen instead of ignore. It's served me quite well over the years as has my gut.

Interesting. This is what I was thinking.

 

[shakazulu2420]

Does she leave it unattended at night, in the shower, etc.

If Shes guarding her phone this another bad sign.

She has a pass code

 

[shakazulu2420]

If you activate location on your phone and use Google Map, it will give a run down of where she is/was.

You mean her phone. I'd have to get her phone to do that

 

[shakazulu2420]

Why not simply ask her?

"Honey are you cheating? I suspect you are."
That only drives a cheater to hide even better and more...
And what's the answer supposed to be" yes I'm cheating".

 

[shakazulu2420]

Google serial cheater.

That's a past marriage. Im focusing on my present situation.

 

[bobert]

She has a pass code

So what? She's your wife. You should know the code as well. You've never had to use her phone ever? Never texted someone for her while she was driving? There is a reason she doesn't want you on her phone...

 

[MattMatt]

So a man can't re marry? Jeeez. You think one would come here to write a tale? If you have nothing to add please you don't have to respond...

The fact that you have married two cheaters is unfortunate, but not necessarily your fault. Cheaters rarely tell you in advance of their propensity to cheat.

Don't tip your hand monitor her carefully.

 

[DownByTheRiver]

So a man can't re marry? Jeeez. You think one would come here to write a tale? If you have nothing to add please you don't have to respond...

I don't mean that you're writing a tale. I mean that since the same saga continues with another woman, that you may be overly suspicious and imagining things. The women may therefore decide that the only time they could have to do anything else is to conceal that from you. It wouldn't necessarily be that they were cheating, but you'll never believe otherwise because of your suspicious nature.
It's also possible that you are attracted to or attracting a woman who will cheat. Were either of these women cheating on other men when you met them? How are you meeting these women?

Your ex-wife that you say you divorced because she was cheating that had the big saga about the printer guy, was she cheating with the printer guy or someone else? I certainly did not get cheating from that printer guy scenario.

 

[DudeInProgress]

She has a pass code

Why don’t you have her pass code? She’s your wife ...

 

[DudeInProgress]

That's a past marriage. Im focusing on my present situation.

With a common denominator

 

[DudeInProgress]

So a man can't re marry? Jeeez. You think one would come here to write a tale? If you have nothing to add please you don't have to respond...

Hmmm, lashes out defensively when questioned….

 

[SunCMars]

With a common denominator

And, a maybe common lady denigrater.

My word.

 

[TAMAT]

Shaka...

That only drives a cheater to hide even better and more...

Wise choice cheaters can be really skilled at denial and gaslighting, it's ok to wait a few months to gather evidence rather than wait years or decades with a sophisticated cheater. Eyes open mouth shut.

Also if deep down your W thinks cheating is ok it's just a matter of time and oppourtunity before it happens, better to find out before too much emotional and financial entanglement.

 

[SunCMars]

You have some Red Flags.

Find out if they are out, lying and flapping.

You need proof.

Tail her, or get a friend to follow her trail when she gets off.

Put a VAR in her car, under her seat. See who she is talking to/with.

Others have mentioned a GPS device.

What are your plans?

Keep a low profile, do the patient cat-and-mouse action.


Saturday seems a likely day, in this instance

 

[PreRaph]

Yes she spending two hrs somewhere.
She mentioned before she finds her boss cute and joked she'd like to f*** him.

She said that?? You don't joke with your husband that you'd like to f*** another man.

 

[Mr.Married]

That's a past marriage. Im focusing on my present situation.

Dude..... really. I suggest you never get married again. There is of course the chance of bad luck...no doubt, but there comes a time you might have to look in the mirror.
What do you think it is that has allowed you to end up like this yet again.... and so quickly???

 

[Anastasia6]

Ok so I"m on board with the majority that say sounds like she is cheating. But I want to point out. I used to spend hours after work talking with a co-worker that I was friends with. But we didn't really meet up outside of work so sometimes we'd spend a couple hours just talking after work. It was a women FWIW.

But the tracker and the var should help clarify things