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Every Worry About Confirmtion Bias?

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It seems that we see the same story here on TAM CWI a dozen times a week. So the advice stays similar.

But have you ever wondered about the stories of cheating, and infidelity and YES success stories which DON'T show up here?

Right now, there are only a few posters who have good R stories which don't fit the mold, such as Wazza (not picking on you. I'm just still new here)

But I'm sure there are men and women out there which had the strength of character to actually take the necessary steps to drop a cheating spouse without any guidance.

There are people who R without the 180 or having things shoved into the WS' face. But they find their own path so we never hear about them.

So are we actually giving advice which works all the time or are we only seeing people who CAN be helped because they don't know what to do BECAUSE their spouses are Fog bound POS? Are there WS who are NOT Fog Bound? Are there people who CAN 'nice' their ways into an R which we don't see?

It was just something on my mind.

Edited to add: The perils of not proof reading! It should be titled EVER worry, not EVERY.
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I guess that you can count my FWH OW's relationship as a "sucessful" R by being nice. Multiple affairs and a husband that blames her past. She gets away with it everytime.

I got lucky that the EA had ended 6-9months prior...so no fog here. I was nice except for the night where I kicked him for figuring out that he did kiss her. Other than that, not much yelling. Just a whole lot of crying.
If it helps Grey Goose...we are almost 5 months into reconciliation
Great to hear that! How have you managed, forget and start feeling something again?
The feeling something is easy because he is so remorseful and tries hard everyday to make sure I am okay and taken care of. Hell, I never thought that I would be as devestated as I was. I thought I would be able to walk away without a second thought, like every relationship I had in the past. I guess 3 kids and 13 yrs of marriage makes it hard to walk.

The forgeting is the hard part. There are some days that I don't think about it much, but the are more days that it eats away at my thoughts. Those are days when I am super insecure and wonder if I will ever be able to do enough to keep it from happening again. The only sanity is that I cannot do anymore than my best and then the rest is up to him.

Heres to hoping!!!!
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