I'm glad there is a place, where am not alone, and comforting am not completely nuts.
Well here's my story:
Been married 7 years, children, dog, fish.
4 years back things went a little south after I decided I wanted access to my husbands phone, emails, etc. I know that is prying into his privacy and such. Well what I found was a horrible shocker to me, and it just worse after another incident, we have two vehicles, and he was going out asked me to start the car because it was super cold, I went out to do so, he told me not to touch anything in the car, I go into the glove compartment find perfume and condoms... needles to say his lame excuse helping a friend out.
We have issues as well due to how he uses social networking, for dating purposes, called him on that told me I was crazy. 4 months later he finally got a chance to travel, instead of saying "honey let's take a trip, we deserve this..." I know I'm being stupid, he turns around says "I need time to see my buds, have some fun get away bla bla". he contacted all his previous NSA, give them a load of crap that his life stinks, and is married to some old efffin hag, one of them called him on it ( he told her they were going to get married and start fresh), and wrote to me to make sure we were DIVORCING! This is just a short of it, we spoke I suppose came to an agreement that we would get help work on it, we are humans and F***up sure.
That was more BS, he just kept on going and going. I had just had out last child and he was telling me he had business trip, called his bluff because his mistress let me know what he was up to they were going away to a romantic ski trip, all because he lied to her... I know really F**up. Anyways not to keep rambling on, i told him a couldn't anymore just to much, I'm not crazy, or imagining this S***.
He said to start over,and this time it would just be myself and him in this relationship, as a couple. Honest to goodness promise.
Yesterday I cracked the code to his phone by mistake in front of him he tripped out(A year ago he flipped out and told me to f*** off and go to hell, all because I made a very clear point on how paranoid he is about his phone, it was on our night table I put it on the main dinning table, he thought I took it with me he was having an EA at that time), well I found a message to an escort asking about prices, services, etc... His excuse " he is just curious..." I said one thing is googleing maybe looking, another is contacting them for where and how much, (as I mentioned before he has previous communication with such women be it free or paid so I don't know what his curiosity is).
He says am being distant, mistrusting, paranoid, all them good things, S*** i wonder why.
I printed a pre-divorce certificate, and tucked in his pillow.
I slept in our guest room, his response was "stop being ridiculous."
I do apologize, I know am just typing my story in strange nutshell, I know I have had my faults in this relationship, but not to the extreme he has gone.
My MIL says am being drastic by asking for a divorce, "think of the children...", I told her am no ones mop, and that's whom I think about.
Well here's my story:
Been married 7 years, children, dog, fish.
4 years back things went a little south after I decided I wanted access to my husbands phone, emails, etc. I know that is prying into his privacy and such. Well what I found was a horrible shocker to me, and it just worse after another incident, we have two vehicles, and he was going out asked me to start the car because it was super cold, I went out to do so, he told me not to touch anything in the car, I go into the glove compartment find perfume and condoms... needles to say his lame excuse helping a friend out.
We have issues as well due to how he uses social networking, for dating purposes, called him on that told me I was crazy. 4 months later he finally got a chance to travel, instead of saying "honey let's take a trip, we deserve this..." I know I'm being stupid, he turns around says "I need time to see my buds, have some fun get away bla bla". he contacted all his previous NSA, give them a load of crap that his life stinks, and is married to some old efffin hag, one of them called him on it ( he told her they were going to get married and start fresh), and wrote to me to make sure we were DIVORCING! This is just a short of it, we spoke I suppose came to an agreement that we would get help work on it, we are humans and F***up sure.
That was more BS, he just kept on going and going. I had just had out last child and he was telling me he had business trip, called his bluff because his mistress let me know what he was up to they were going away to a romantic ski trip, all because he lied to her... I know really F**up. Anyways not to keep rambling on, i told him a couldn't anymore just to much, I'm not crazy, or imagining this S***.
He said to start over,and this time it would just be myself and him in this relationship, as a couple. Honest to goodness promise.
Yesterday I cracked the code to his phone by mistake in front of him he tripped out(A year ago he flipped out and told me to f*** off and go to hell, all because I made a very clear point on how paranoid he is about his phone, it was on our night table I put it on the main dinning table, he thought I took it with me he was having an EA at that time), well I found a message to an escort asking about prices, services, etc... His excuse " he is just curious..." I said one thing is googleing maybe looking, another is contacting them for where and how much, (as I mentioned before he has previous communication with such women be it free or paid so I don't know what his curiosity is).
He says am being distant, mistrusting, paranoid, all them good things, S*** i wonder why.
I printed a pre-divorce certificate, and tucked in his pillow.
I slept in our guest room, his response was "stop being ridiculous."
I do apologize, I know am just typing my story in strange nutshell, I know I have had my faults in this relationship, but not to the extreme he has gone.
My MIL says am being drastic by asking for a divorce, "think of the children...", I told her am no ones mop, and that's whom I think about.
