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You see here is the thing with guys who hire professionals - they pay women in order to not be in a relationship.

Remember Julia Roberts’ famous line in the movie, “Pretty Woman” ........ “men don’t pay hookers for sex. They pay them to leave.”

That is a true statement. They are paying for a hookers time so they don’t have to be in a relationship.

Now think about that for a second and you tell me that a man who pays women to walk after they ejaculate, is that man even relationship material let alone marriage and family material???
 

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Smile, your boyfriend's got issues that you're not going to be able to deal with. He can't deal with them and cannot control his compulsions. He likely doesn't want to lie and deceive you but he cannot stop. Sex is the area of life most subject to neurotic behavior. It ain't going away.
 

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*Smile26 we all understand how hard it will be to move on. We have all had to do it at one point or another.

The girl I proposed to didn't accept even though we had talked about it for months. After a while I snooped in her email and found her laughing about the situation with her new boyfriend who I had no idea about. I actually had an out of body experience at that moment. I promise you I could not have loved a person more, in fact it was an innocent love, which I will never have again.

Every once in a while I say this but let me say it again there is this idea that the people who stay together love their partner more then the people who don't. Nothing can be further from the truth. I think we all love pretty hard, the difference is the people who break up do so because they know they have to and are able to summon the courage to do so. Doesn't mean it hurts any less, in fact it may hurt more in the short term.

I broke up after a few weeks, one day I looked in the mirror and decided even if I was to be in agony for the rest of my life, it was better then staying with someone who could treat me that way. It was the best thing I ever did. I ended up marrying one of the best people I have ever known, more then a decade ago. Even though I would have argued with you at the time, I did love again. Even though I had NO doubt, love for me was over, I would have been wrong.

It will hopefully be the most courageous thing you do, but it will set your life up, for the rest of it. It is a leap of faith but something I know your heart doesn't want. Sometimes you have to follow what your mind knows is true, because the heart isn't capable of knowing what is best, it just feels. This is one of those times.

I will take time but you will heal, I promise. You will come to believe it's the best thing you could have ever done.

I would bet good money on it.

It will be hard, but we will be here for you. Most of us have gone through this. It's the main reason why I post. Because I didn't believe I would heal and I needed people to tell me I would. I remember.

This is probably one of the worst things to happen to you I am sure, but it's NOT the end of your life or your joy. I encourage you to be the bravest maybe you have ever been, and bet your future on yourself. You kids will thank you for it.
 

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How do you confront him? You don't.
Because now you know the truth,and confronting him will only lead to more lies and confusion...
All of us on this forum have been in your shoes...it doesn't get better, not with him anyway...
I know in your heart you are imagining confronting him, and him telling you that he loves you and that it will never happen again, but It doesn't ever really go that way...
The only thing to do is leave...you are worth so much more than whatever he has to offer

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it doesn't get better, not with him anyway...
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But I 100% promise you your life will. If you move on you will heal and still have a great life, just as great as you hoped for.
 
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Tell your family, they’ll support you and understand why you’re not going to marry him.

Somewhere a guy is out there praying to meet the girl of his dreams. That would be you.
 

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you need to seriously reconsider this relationship.
if you two are supposed to be monogamous in your dating relationship, he is failing that test.
Are you OK with possibly picking up some disease he is getting from this escort? Is this escort a woman? Sometimes these "escorts" turn out to be transgender, which would bring up the question of if your fiance is really heterosexual. And finally, i would be asking "am i not enough for you"? I mean, once you ARE MARRIED, would he still be secretly hitting these escorts to get something more than you can give him?
 
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