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I'm having an issue getting and keeping my penis 100% erect. I'm not sure if it's normal or not since I've only had sex with one girl. I've been with my current girlfriend for over 4 years and every time we have sex, my penis only gets about 80% erect. I can still feel some softness in it. Early on in our relationship I realized this and started "flexing" my penis to make it really stiff. Or course, I can't stay that way the entire time so I have to keep doing it on and off. I am however erect enough to pleasure my GF and I can still enjoy sex as well. I just feel like I'm always trying to get myself to 100% and it just doesn't work. I've done it maybe once or twice in the past without trying or thinking about it but it never last long.
Recently, I've been trying to relax and not think about it or do any "flexing". I thought that might help but it doesn't. Does anyone have any experience with this or any solutions?
 

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First issue, do you have any ongoing issues like high blood pressure, diabetes or any other cardiovascular or respiratory illness? Do you take any medication?
 

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An erection is the combination of a neurological event that requires a healthy cardiovascular system. Men respond via the parasympathetic response that triggers a cardiovascular event.

So, exercise will definitely enhance your erection. So will not be overly stressed out (opposing the parasympathetic response). You still may want to make an appointment to be sure there is no underlying condition. Also stressing out about not being fully erect is certainly not helping.
 

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What happens when you masturbate? Are you fully erect then or just 80%?

If you're fine then, it's probably stress or nerves that are making it more difficult for you when with your gf. Are you nervous about sex with her?
 

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Are you excercising or eating heavy/fatty meals?

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I weight train every other day.
I think my eating habits are normal. I rarely eat anything sweet, greasy or processed. I only drink water and occasionally I'll have a beer on the weekend.
 

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What happens when you masturbate? Are you fully erect then or just 80%?

If you're fine then, it's probably stress or nerves that are making it more difficult for you when with your gf. Are you nervous about sex with her?
Most of the time, I'm fully erect.
 

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You shouldn't have any cardio issues. I know it sounds a little nutty, but along with your weight training do some yoga or tai chi exercise.

Are there other underlying stressors?
Not nutty at all. I actually want to take a yoga class. :)

I think I keep my stress in check.
 

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Performance anxiety... Try to learn to relax... Spend time trying to discover your partner rather than jump straight for intercourse. Help both of you relax. Use hands on her...
I've tried that but I just can't seem to keep my mind away from "I hope I'm fully erect this time".
How can I keep my thoughts away from this?
 

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BTW green tea enhances the release of nitric oxide (NO)... Necessary in causing an erection. Don't drink too soon before sex that actually decreases NO
 

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I've tried that but I just can't seem to keep my mind away from "I hope I'm fully erect this time".
How can I keep my thoughts away from this?
Think about how you can give her pleasure and orgasms through oral sex. Think about how her face looks when she's looking at you during sex. Think about how amazing her skin feels. Think about her breathing and how it gets faster when she's excited. Stay in the moment - think about her, not your erection.
 

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BTW green tea enhances the release of nitric oxide (NO)... Necessary in causing an erection. Don't drink too soon before sex that actually decreases NO
I drank green tea a couple months ago every morning. Then I started getting horrible acne on my back. Once I stopped, it went away......though I'm left with acne scars now. So I'm afraid of it.
 
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