I have been with my fiance for 4 years now. We have always had a strange family dynamic as it is... It is just getting harder and harder.
I came into this relationship with a child of my own, who is now 5. He came in with two children who are 8 and 9 now. His two girls live in Europe. They went with their mother back to Hungary when my fiance and she divorced. He agreed to that because the money was good enough to travel quite often.
Fast forward four years, now... everything is falling apart. I have damn good reason to believe that he is bi-polar. He does the usual work all night, for a week, excited.... then crashes into depression, ready to quit on everything. Never suicidal, just mean, nasty, hateful, and wanting to ignore the world and make it pay.
What has lead me to come here for help is that I am pregnant. We have been fighting for months, even broke up twice, where I actually went to find another place to live.
The last time we broke up, I ended up being pregnant. We always agreed that if I wound up pregnant that we would have an abortion. Which I have already once in our relationship. Now we have decided to keep this baby. It's been a little rough, he was and still feels betrayed that I changed my mind on our "deal". I can't explain it, maybe some other woman who has been in my shoes can explain the feeling of wanting your child.
Despite that, and some fighting, he is excited... some days anyway.
Our sex life has gone down the ****ter, he works at night, sleeps all day... I am nauseous all the time... we're never on the same page.
So the past couple of days, he has had a cold... and I know that it has a lot to do with him lacking energy, wanting to sleep, all that... but in his mind, he is in a deep depression again and is questioning if we can even be together or not.
I go through this at least twice a month. What the hell do I do?? Should I just let by gones be by gones? He refuses to even admit that he has some sort of mental disorder. By the way, his mother is very ill with bipolar disease, and I think he is afraid to be like her and admit it.
To top it off, the money is definitely not what it used to be, and he can't afford to fly to europe every two weeks like he used to... and adding another child is really getting to him. I get that. But is all of that a reason to just quit?
I came into this relationship with a child of my own, who is now 5. He came in with two children who are 8 and 9 now. His two girls live in Europe. They went with their mother back to Hungary when my fiance and she divorced. He agreed to that because the money was good enough to travel quite often.
Fast forward four years, now... everything is falling apart. I have damn good reason to believe that he is bi-polar. He does the usual work all night, for a week, excited.... then crashes into depression, ready to quit on everything. Never suicidal, just mean, nasty, hateful, and wanting to ignore the world and make it pay.
What has lead me to come here for help is that I am pregnant. We have been fighting for months, even broke up twice, where I actually went to find another place to live.
The last time we broke up, I ended up being pregnant. We always agreed that if I wound up pregnant that we would have an abortion. Which I have already once in our relationship. Now we have decided to keep this baby. It's been a little rough, he was and still feels betrayed that I changed my mind on our "deal". I can't explain it, maybe some other woman who has been in my shoes can explain the feeling of wanting your child.
Despite that, and some fighting, he is excited... some days anyway.
Our sex life has gone down the ****ter, he works at night, sleeps all day... I am nauseous all the time... we're never on the same page.
So the past couple of days, he has had a cold... and I know that it has a lot to do with him lacking energy, wanting to sleep, all that... but in his mind, he is in a deep depression again and is questioning if we can even be together or not.
I go through this at least twice a month. What the hell do I do?? Should I just let by gones be by gones? He refuses to even admit that he has some sort of mental disorder. By the way, his mother is very ill with bipolar disease, and I think he is afraid to be like her and admit it.
To top it off, the money is definitely not what it used to be, and he can't afford to fly to europe every two weeks like he used to... and adding another child is really getting to him. I get that. But is all of that a reason to just quit?