[TRy]

SO, he took her care upon himself, since her family pretty much doesnt give a damn (she is not only nuts, but has issues with drugs and alcohol, isnt she fun??) and found a treatment center for her.

Your husband likes crazy women. His first ex is the suicide type of crazy, and you are crazy to even want to be part of this when he has no concern for your needs. You are insane to even think about growing old with someone that will not be there for you.

Am I a bad person for feeling like he is enabling??

The only thing worse than an enabler is someone that enables an enabler.