So you can probably understand where he is coming from then, right?Part of me just wants to cut him out of my life completely, but then I realize that he really doesnt have any other emotional support at this point, and would feel guilty if I did that.
I think he is enabling her, too, but then I don't know what it would be like to have your spouse threatening suicide knowing what the kids would go through if she does that. He might not be doing it for her as much as he's trying to spare his kids that kind of memory. I have a sister who is a drug addict and a complete loser and I've completely cut her out of my life; but her daughter doesn't live with her. If my niece still lived with her that would be a different story. As sad as it is these drug addicts use their kids as weapons. They know you can turn your back on them in a second but you won't as long as there are kids involved. It's really sick.