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So, this has become my research topic of the day. I've come to realize that I have picked emotionally unavailable men my whole life. Well, ok, I was with the same man for 25 years, but after the end of my marriage, I have continued to pick men who are just not EA. For those who don't know my story, I met a man several months ago, and we "dated" for about 5 months. Bottom line, he wasn't ready for a relationship, and I ended things about a month ago.
Since the end of my marriage, I have dated a few emotionally unavailable men, and didn't even realize it. The first was typical, he didn't trust women etc. that was due to the failure of his marriage. It just seems like the recurrant theme is that they blow "hot and cold", and exhibit "disappearing" behavior when they feel they are getting too close to another person.
What I haven't figured out quite yet, is if I myself am emotionally unavailable, and is that why I have attracted similar men?? so, yes, I had an absent father for the most part, but does that really play such a large role??
Ok, that being said, what are other women's experiences with unavailable men?? I'm asking because I'm new in the dating world, and still trying to find myself, re-define myself as no longer married, but single. I find myself in a much better place 8 months later, and am in no rush to enter a life long relationship, but I'm kind of fed up with meeting the "wrong" men, and I would like to spot those emotionally unavailable men right at the get go, and not become "stuck".
Since the end of my marriage, I have dated a few emotionally unavailable men, and didn't even realize it. The first was typical, he didn't trust women etc. that was due to the failure of his marriage. It just seems like the recurrant theme is that they blow "hot and cold", and exhibit "disappearing" behavior when they feel they are getting too close to another person.
What I haven't figured out quite yet, is if I myself am emotionally unavailable, and is that why I have attracted similar men?? so, yes, I had an absent father for the most part, but does that really play such a large role??
Ok, that being said, what are other women's experiences with unavailable men?? I'm asking because I'm new in the dating world, and still trying to find myself, re-define myself as no longer married, but single. I find myself in a much better place 8 months later, and am in no rush to enter a life long relationship, but I'm kind of fed up with meeting the "wrong" men, and I would like to spot those emotionally unavailable men right at the get go, and not become "stuck".