Well done. Did she know you were going to move? You might find she chases after you. Despite that fact that she does not love you (you can also take comfort in the fact that she didn't really love H1 and H2 either, from what your story says). She will only chase after you not because she loves you, but because things have changed, the ball's in the other court. Don't fool yourself if you think she's going to 'suddenly realise what she's lost', it sounds to me that's not going to work in this situation. If you get back together, guaranteed it will happen again. If she couldn't keep promises before, then it's unlikely she will do again.
I don't think it would be rude to ask your sister if she could try and use natural products for her cleaning - you could even do some research and suggest some to her, gently, of course. By doing this, you are not just lumping her with the problem of your allergies, but also offering a solution at the same time. I.e, "Sis, I have this problem, would you be open to trying some non chemical cleaners, such as x and x and x?". She may well prefer the non-chemical items. You could also offer to do some of the cleaning/washing yourself, using non-chemical cleaners. That way, she can see that they do work. I do have an inkling of what you experience - though not allergic to mould, I detest the smell of chemicals, perfumes, room sprays, cleaners...yuk! They bother me. White vinegar, lemon juice and bicarb. soda (not the same as baking soda) and borax powder do some amazing cleaning - I use them myself. You can also buy commercially prepared natural, or low allergy cleaners. Health food stores have them, but really, you can make your own very cheaply.
Animals are such a great comfort, aren't they? And dogs in particular seem to know when their human is going through a tough time. I think it important for their psychological welfare, and yours, that if at all possible, they be with you.
And yes, it does hurt, and will do for a while. Stay strong. This shouldn't be a move to 'win her back'. If she plays abandoned, it's not because she loves you, but because the game's changed and she's insecure without her 'base' (that is, you). If you return to her, it's really unlikely she'll change. I say this because her prior behaviour indicates that she
didn't care and didn't regret what she was doing either to you, nor her former H's. If she wheedles her way back, it's only because she's now left insecure. I think she is incapable of real love, which is sad. She said herself that she had 'issues' and 'anger' that she needed to see a therapist about, if I read one of your previous posts correctly. Do you really want to stay with someone who is perpetually angry at the world?
Think others here would also applaud your move,
cheers
Metta
I moved out Friday evening when she wasnt home. I was in a rush so I left most of my stuff behind. What hurts the most is I had to leave my two shih tzus behind. Daisy and Bo were my life they helped me when I was sitting there all alone and she wasnt home. Daisy is a year older then Bo so he naturally depends on her, wherever Daisy goes Bo follows. I would lay on the sofa on my side and Daisy would lay up against my chest, Bo would lay behind my legs right were my knees bent. We would sleep like that all night and not move. Im living with my sister, she uses allot of chemicals so Im affected by it. Im thinking that its the fabric softner she uses that creates the problem so if I stay out of the bedrooms where the closets are I should be ok. I just had a thought, Im going to ask my sister if I can bring bo and daisy with me. There my life and right now I need all the support I can get.
I was laying downstairs and thinking of all the things I'd seen her doing behind my back and all the signs that she didnt love me were there but I ignored them. She said she loved me but showed me that she preferred to spend time with her ex. Knowing that it still hurts that a life that meant so much to me no longer exists
