Oh-oh! This is not good. It is possible that you are being given trickle truth.
Hugs and two kisses on the cheek? Well... it's possible, I suppose.
Hugs and two kisses on the cheek? Well... it's possible, I suppose.
I don't know if she had lots of sex with him...there may not have been much opportunity...from a timing perspective.She had sex with him and plenty of it - of this there is no doubt. None whatsoever.
Like the phone - you won't get the truth without a struggle.
Tell her to leave the home unless she consents to a polygraph. Tell her you can reconcile but won't do it based on lies. Not at all.
She was very callous in engaging with her boyfriend while stringing you along. The boyfriend may not be divorced or seeking one. You can bet they both lied to cover themselves. If they worked for a large company go to HR and ask for their policy on fraternization. You may have a complaint to file.
Do not reconcile unless you feel you have the entire truth. All of it.
Perhaps she is the ONE exception on this board. For reconciliation, as disappointing it is to know she had relations with someone else is - and she did have at the very least, emotional relations - you shouldn't accept lies.I don't know if she had lots of sex with him...there may not have been much opportunity...from a timing perspective.
She is trying though now....even combined our facebook page with both of us on it (she closed hers)and has a picture of the 2 of us in her car on the dash....maybe she is telling me the truth?
Here's my thoughts.I still wonder if it went further than the hugs and 2 kisses on the cheek....She denies to this day 5 months later....thoughts?
Putting effort in now doesn't equal telling you the truth about her affair. Many disloyal spouses believe, some rightly so, that the truth will end the marriage. You may be willing to forgive your wife sexting and kissing another man. You would be much less willing to forgive your wife doing every kinky act with him that she's been denying you for the last 10 years.She is trying though now....even combined our facebook page with both of us on it (she closed hers)and has a picture of the 2 of us in her car on the dash....maybe she is telling me the truth?
Yeah, if sex is a deal-breaker for you and you want to keep your family & you are willing to let this go. Then accept her word and let it go. But make her understand that there will never be a second chance.I know that you want to believe her story, especially since you have children and things have improved. And you can choose to do that. You can do your best to put it behind you and move forward. You can tell yourself that, even though you still have doubts, you've made a conscious decision to get past it.
If you do that, though, you need to have complete transparency from her. She should know that you don't necessarily believe her story. She needs to stay on probation, so to speak.
(For what it's worth, I don't believe her story at all about the kiss on the cheek & would be extremely surprised if they didn't have sex.)
As ALL of the others have said: Yes, she had sex with him.I don't know if she had lots of sex with him...there may not have been much opportunity...from a timing perspective.
She is trying though now....even combined our facebook page with both of us on it (she closed hers)and has a picture of the 2 of us in her car on the dash....maybe she is telling me the truth?
Will is right.11. You are still questioning it five months later. Why is that? Because you know her story doesn't add up?
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