Rolling Stones said it best. What a drag it is getting old.
When my wife went through menopause, the usual issues came with it. Dryness, pain, and the lack of wanting to even try PIV due to it all. Combine that with the difference in how men and women get aroused and, suffice to say, our sex life slowly changed.
She wasn’t happy about things, but I’m sure she could have been easier on herself if my drive was not so strong. We compensated in other ways, but our options were/are limited. Her mouth is small and BJ’s are not comfortable to perform, plus, she is grossed out by the potential liquids that can be there. She just doesn’t like doing that. If she doesn’t like something, I don’t want her to do it.
She is an anal virgin who has no interest in that anyway and, being north of 60, I would not ask her to try that now. I understand.
She tried the Estradiol cream a while ago, but the act of having to apply it didn’t get rolled into the nightly routine and it never got a chance to take effect. Just seemed too high maintenance and I wasn’t going to try to force it.
Fast forward to the past month or so. Up until now, we made do with some great toys and marital aids, but she knows how badly I missed PIV. And it wasn’t just me. She missed it too, so she decided to give the cream another shot.
After a few weeks of being vigilant about it…. TA-DAAAAA! Success! We have had PIV about 3 times in the past week and she was not in pain.
We’re back! Right? Well, not really…
Now it is ME with the issues. I can get erect and maintain the erection while being physically stimulated, but I seem to lose a little of it during the little time it takes to position and apply a quick bit of lube for entry.
When it’s time to play, I go away😡
I have to retake matters into my own hand, then go in ASAP.
So, I have drive. Foreplay does give me the rigidity, but it’s like a balloon with a hole in it. As long as air is going in, it will look right. The minute ya stop blowing in it, buh- bye.
I’m gonna try a ring next. I DO have substantially low T and my doc did one injection over a year ago, but I never did do another one. Wondering if that would help at all. Sure won’t hurt and it would help in other areas too.
Anyone ever dealt with this? I hate that she was able to bring this back to us and now I am hindering the joy.