[Diceplayer]

Read all about them and do see that it needs to come off after 20-30 minutes. I actually wasn’t sure if that would hurt or be really uncomfortable. I literally tried an elastic hair tie to see if I should even explore that option. I was pleasantly impressed at the results. I imagine a purpose made ring would be even better.

You may need to try different kinds to find one to your liking, I did. Once I found the right one, I bought several and keep them wherever I might need one such as in the bedroom, family room, pool house, car, etc.

 

[MIB]

I would suggest she do the lube herself before you guys are even messing around. So you don't have to stop. Of course that's assuming you know you're going to have sex..

That cream needs to be used regularly as prescribed and not just when you think you need lubrication because it's a hormone not a lubricator. So when I talk about lube I'm talking about lube like you get at Walmart.

Yes. She applies/inserts the E cream on a schedule. When I say “lube”, I do mean the normal lube you mention. And you are correct. It is hard to really predict what we will do. That doesn’t mean some forethought can’t go into it. Still, once I go off, I’m not at my best. I would really like to finish her off myself and not have to always resort to some artificial (but very effective) means.

 

[DownByTheRiver]

Yes. She applies/inserts the E cream on a schedule. When I say “lube”, I do mean the normal lube you mention. And you are correct. It is hard to really predict what we will do. That doesn’t mean some forethought can’t go into it. Still, once I go off, I’m not at my best. I would really like to finish her off myself and not have to always resort to some artificial (but very effective) means.

Tell her she needs to be the one that grabs for the lube because it's interrupting your erection. I think she'll understand that. Just be sure the lube is super handy! The situation might get better as she continues to use the hormone cream.

 

[BigDaddyNY]

If your T is low that would be the first place I would go. The ester used determines how often you need a shot. Cypionate is the most common. With that ester you would get a shot once a week, some get it every 2 weeks. It can be a game changer if you are low.

 

[Julie's Husband]

Read all about them and do see that it needs to come off after 20-30 minutes. I actually wasn’t sure if that would hurt or be really uncomfortable. I literally tried an elastic hair tie to see if I should even explore that option. I was pleasantly impressed at the results. I imagine a purpose made ring would be even better.

When castrate, one problem was enough focus to maintain enough arousal to retain blood in the penis. We tried the ring, but that left everything behind the ring flaccid so that it was like a bag on a string. Didn't like that.

We found that if I were aroused to pre orgasm levels, the erection was much more durable and less susceptible to distractions. Apparently the super engorgement squishes drainage veins to prevent loss.

 

[Julie's Husband]

Again, when I was castrate (no testosterone) we also found that foreplay that includes thrusting over the top while lubed with her hand on top to apply pressure allowed me to become aroused and then just a bit of a change in direction on the thrust led to PIV.

 

[MIB]

Again, when I was castrate (no testosterone) we also found that foreplay that includes thrusting over the top while lubed with her hand on top to apply pressure allowed me to become aroused and then just a bit of a change in direction on the thrust led to PIV.

I am trying to avoid too many acrobatics, but whatever works, I’m game.

 

[MIB]

So as much as I read and try to learn, I’m not seeing a definitive answer to one of my T questions.

Does T have an effect on arousal to the point where it helps with erections? I mean, does it play a role in the physiological process where thoughts and non physical stimuli have an effect on an getting/maintaining an erection?

I’ll ask my doc all this, but my appt isn’t until next week and Google hasn’t helped me specifically.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

So as much as I read and try to learn, I’m not seeing a definitive answer to one of my T questions.

Does T have an effect on arousal to the point where it helps with erections? I mean, does it play a role in the physiological process where thoughts and non physical stimuli have an effect on an getting/maintaining an erection?

I’ll ask my doc all this, but my appt isn’t until next week and Google hasn’t helped me specifically.

Sorry if I missed it..... blood pressure, vascular system all in fair shape?

 

[BigDaddyNY]

So as much as I read and try to learn, I’m not seeing a definitive answer to one of my T questions.

Does T have an effect on arousal to the point where it helps with erections? I mean, does it play a role in the physiological process where thoughts and non physical stimuli have an effect on an getting/maintaining an erection?

I’ll ask my doc all this, but my appt isn’t until next week and Google hasn’t helped me specifically.

Yes it does.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

So as much as I read and try to learn, I’m not seeing a definitive answer to one of my T questions.

Does T have an effect on arousal to the point where it helps with erections? I mean, does it play a role in the physiological process where thoughts and non physical stimuli have an effect on an getting/maintaining an erection?

I’ll ask my doc all this, but my appt isn’t until next week and Google hasn’t helped me specifically.

Also, congratulations on the positivity going on, great to hear!

 

[LisaDiane]

So I’ll try to address the responses here.

For what it’s worth, while I have always ate whatever I wanted and, while I am medically overweight, I have always carried it well. In other words, I donor “look” significantly out of shape. Also, I am very active. I have been working out a lot with a newfound passion to get healthier. I‘ve lost weight since Christmas and it shows. I don’t drink. Don’t smoke.

Up until just a few years ago, I had no problems in this department. In fact, even in my 40’s, I could maintain and go for another round without needing to stop during the refractory period. So this is all new to me and, admittedly, a blow to my ego.

Diet:
Of course I will consider a proper nutritional plan, but when I go down that road, everybody and their brother have different ideas that they swear by. There is no end to the amount of diets and supplements aimed at ED and low T.

Viagra/generics:
Aren't there significant side affects? Years ago, my BP was creeping up. It wasn’t extreme, but doc put me on a one-a-day pill that keeps it in the normal range. I do believe I’m about 15 pounds away from being able to stop those. I did it before. Will make it stick this time. But aren’t there dangers of these pills and BP meds?
Also, I feel like taking a pill would be hard to schedule. We have busy lives. Sometimes we don’t do anything in bed at night except watch a little TV and go to sleep. But then we might wake up early and have a romp. How do you fit a pill in the right moment of that lack of routine?

Low T:
Is this even something to peruse if everything else seems fine? I do necessarily WANT to take injections if I don't need to or if it has no effect on maintaining an erection. I can live with all the other consequences. Erection difficulties are often a physical issue that T won’t overcome. That said, from what I read, the fact that I DO get erections means I don’t really have ED. I DO get it up. As I am thinking about that, I guess it does take more effort and direct stimulation these days to get there too.

It doesn't matter how you carry extra weight...if it's fat instead of muscle, it creates Estrogen in your body. If your Estrogen is too high, you can have Testosterone levels over 1000 and you will still struggle with Low-T symptoms. Plus, the blood pressure pills actually work directly against sexual performance -- you need blood pressure in order to have and maintain an erection -- so eating better and exercising so you can get to a healthier weight with more muscle will most likely make a huge difference for you on both of those issues!

Also, (I think) you have spent years maintaining your erections through manual stimulation instead of PIV....(if so) that makes the less focused pressure of PIV feel different, and could be contributing to you needing a little extra stimulation. That should resolve itself in time.

I guess I'm not sure why you are feeling bad about this though? You do finish with PIV, right...? You just have to stimulate yourself manually (or have your wife do it) before you can go inside her...is that right? It can be VERY erotic and sexy to a woman when she gets to watch her partner touch himself during sex, especially if that's been your normal way of being intimate in the past. If SHE doesn't mind and you are still able to have PIV with her, I would say you are doing great and just have fun with it!!

 

[MIB]

Sorry if I missed it..... blood pressure, vascular system all in fair shape?

My BP is kept at normal levels with one pill a day. I have been working out and have lost weight. Last time I did that, I was able to stop taking the BP meds.

My health is quite good and I am active. I run a mile/day on the treadmill. My lungs are good for more, but my knees need tme to drop a few more pounds to feel better jogging. Taking it slow.

Still, even with some extra baggage, in the last 20-30 years, I have always been able to run, jog, mountain bike, swim, climb stairs, and out work young men half my age. I am very capable, physically speaking.

 

[Ragnar Ragnasson]

My BP is kept at normal levels with one pill a day. I have been working about and have lost weight. Last time I did that, I was able to stop taking the BP meds.

My health is quite good and I am active. I run a mile/day on the treadmill. My lungs are good for more, but my knees need tme to drop a few more pounds to feel better jogging. Taking it slow.

Still, even with some extra baggage, in the last 20-30 years, I have always been able to run, jog, mountain bike, swim, climb stairs, and out work young men half my age. I am very capable, physically speaking.

That's outstanding. A few less things to worry about.

 

[LisaDiane]

So as much as I read and try to learn, I’m not seeing a definitive answer to one of my T questions.

Does T have an effect on arousal to the point where it helps with erections? I mean, does it play a role in the physiological process where thoughts and non physical stimuli have an effect on an getting/maintaining an erection?

I’ll ask my doc all this, but my appt isn’t until next week and Google hasn’t helped me specifically.

Absolutely YES. It enhances (or causes) mental arousal just as much as physical performance.

 

[Julie's Husband]

I am trying to avoid too many acrobatics, but whatever works, I’m game.

Not acrobatic all in the basic missionary position. Just a matter of where you are aiming. Sitting face to face while going through the same routine is pretty hot for me as I'm very visual.

 

[Rus47]

I just had my T levels checked last week because I’m having trouble gaining muscle mass from working out. All my levels turned out normal but before the doc knew that he said I’d be giving myself shots 3 times a week at home if my levels were low. By that statement I’m guessing that one shot from your doctor did pretty much nothing.

I inject every other week, plenty adequate. Never heard of three times a week. But the normal cycle is 10-14 days so the injection a year ago is long gone.

One thing I believe helps me besides injecting is DHEA every day.

 

[Julie's Husband]

So as much as I read and try to learn, I’m not seeing a definitive answer to one of my T questions.

Does T have an effect on arousal to the point where it helps with erections? I mean, does it play a role in the physiological process where thoughts and non physical stimuli have an effect on an getting/maintaining an erection?

I’ll ask my doc all this, but my appt isn’t until next week and Google hasn’t helped me specifically.

A very big "YES" to all of that. That was a beast that plagued me for years; becoming aroused and erect at inappropriate times. Like during medical exams and massage, so I avoided both. Having been given Lupron to suppress testosterone for most of 2020, I am now at a lower level and can relax enough for massage.

Next step is to get back to normal and keep control of the beast.

 

[MIB]

It doesn't matter how you carry extra weight...if it's fat instead of muscle, it creates Estrogen in your body. If your Estrogen is too high, you can have Testosterone levels over 1000 and you will still struggle with Low-T symptoms. Plus, the blood pressure pills actually work directly against sexual performance -- you need blood pressure in order to have and maintain an erection -- so eating better and exercising so you can get to a healthier weight with more muscle will most likely make a huge difference for you on both of those issues!

Also, (I think) you have spent years maintaining your erections through manual stimulation instead of PIV....(if so) that makes the less focused pressure of PIV feel different, and could be contributing to you needing a little extra stimulation. That should resolve itself in time.

I guess I'm not sure why you are feeling bad about this though? You do finish with PIV, right...? You just have to stimulate yourself manually (or have your wife do it) before you can go inside her...is that right? It can be VERY erotic and sexy to a woman when she gets to watch her partner touch himself during sex, especially if that's been your normal way of being intimate in the past. If SHE doesn't mind and you are still able to have PIV with her, I would say you are doing great and just have fun with it!!

Agree on the weight. It needs to go.

I have been on a one/day BP med for over 10 years. It has never been an issue before. I have always heard about the effects that interfere with sexual function, but it did not have that effect on me… at least not until recently if that is an issue today.

Taking matters into my hands is not something that does anything erotic for my wife. She doesn’t mind at all when I do and it has been a frequent practice with her and a toy and me with myself. It's just not something I would ever see her desiring me to do for her. Still, she has no qualms about it.

I do feel bad because the act is short lived and I want her to enjoy it to the fullest. Like you said, it has been a while since this was normal and I dis have some anxiety in recent past for not wanting to cause her discomfort. Maybe we just need to go at is some more and get accustomed to being back here again.

 

[MIB]

Absolutely YES. It enhances (or causes) mental arousal just as much as physical performance.

This may very well be the only thing I need. I swear, this is what I feel I have the issue with. The mental game transitioning to the physical.