Having a problem accepting spouse's EA. We are seeing a MC and things are better, but i'm still fixated on whether she had any physical contact with the other person? We went thru months of talking and figuring it out with the MC. My spouse was not truthful to me or the MC about whether they were not emailing and sending texts to one another. The MC worked her thru it and my spouse said nothing physical happened....I pressed to write him and inform him and his wife, really pressed and that's when things got ugly.We went to the MC and he worked us through it , but i guess she had been building up a dislike for me because i was treating her badly ...neglecting her, giving her the silent treatment, etc for a long time...In the MC's office she told me she didn't know if she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.....Oh, S...t! Anyhow, like i said, we have been working through it for 4 months now, but i still feel she isn't into it as much as i am? How can i get the information out without making this whole thing work out? i fee as if i just ask the questions at the MC's office she'll go crazy and blame me for rocking the boat?