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And she knew it was coming, but we had a surprisingly mellow talk about it.
The bomb was: She owes me a favor, and now she has to come to counselling with me to fix our sex frequency/nymphomania issues
She still reckons it's a waste of time, attempting to inflate my ego (it's old, like come on!) and denies any sexual abuse (I told her that I believe her - tiny little white lie
- and that it's not about her considering WE've always been fighting about this for years, so in the end it's for the both of us, not for sole benefit)
Ne ways... she agreed! But I knew it was a little too easy, something wasn't right; I don't often see her this particularly calm and cooperative during a potentially sensitive/flammable discussion (which we have fought over for years). This calm of hers... is usually the calm before a sh-tstorm. (and people wonder why I prefer her angry! she speaks her mind more!). We did not have sex.
This morning, no sex either. It's a bit of a break for me, but she's been noticeably distant even with her SMSs, I knew something was up and came back home to sort it out with her. She's not telling me what's wrong, but tells me that it isn't me. She's still coming to counselling, she's not saying anything about that, and knows it's for us. At the very least she's happy I came back home because I was worried about her - means something to her.
Thoughts?
I guess there's no promises counselling will help, might have to find the best possible one and who is experienced and specialised in hypersexuality, so this battle ain't over yet.
Do you think she's unhappy because she's now forced to confront her demons? Or do you think she's just unhappy we're not having sex for the time being? She's giving me the impression as if she doesn't feel wanted or desired. She's not outright saying it however, just showing it.
What now? =/
The bomb was: She owes me a favor, and now she has to come to counselling with me to fix our sex frequency/nymphomania issues
She still reckons it's a waste of time, attempting to inflate my ego (it's old, like come on!) and denies any sexual abuse (I told her that I believe her - tiny little white lie
Ne ways... she agreed! But I knew it was a little too easy, something wasn't right; I don't often see her this particularly calm and cooperative during a potentially sensitive/flammable discussion (which we have fought over for years). This calm of hers... is usually the calm before a sh-tstorm. (and people wonder why I prefer her angry! she speaks her mind more!). We did not have sex.
This morning, no sex either. It's a bit of a break for me, but she's been noticeably distant even with her SMSs, I knew something was up and came back home to sort it out with her. She's not telling me what's wrong, but tells me that it isn't me. She's still coming to counselling, she's not saying anything about that, and knows it's for us. At the very least she's happy I came back home because I was worried about her - means something to her.
Thoughts?
I guess there's no promises counselling will help, might have to find the best possible one and who is experienced and specialised in hypersexuality, so this battle ain't over yet.
Do you think she's unhappy because she's now forced to confront her demons? Or do you think she's just unhappy we're not having sex for the time being? She's giving me the impression as if she doesn't feel wanted or desired. She's not outright saying it however, just showing it.
What now? =/