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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3159513/This is a bit of an eye opener, regarding alcohol, women & sexual desire/response. It comes up because our MC actually suggested that my wife might consider having a drink to help her relax. Do a bit of research on women, drinking & sex and what you find is that anything from a very very small amount of alcohol (less than a beer) up to something below the legal limit will likely increase a women's libido and sexual response, while anything over .08, in virtually all cases, may result in an increase in "risky" behavior but make sex less a "thing" being sought and make women less responsive. It did not cover the effect of alcohol on men. Maybe my counselor is onto something? And maybe even mild drinking on the first couple of dates might be something to avoid?


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High dosage (.10 mg%) alcohol attenuated genital arousal in a sample of relatively young moderate drinking women. Our lower dosage (.08 mg%), which is widely recognized as substantially intoxicating in that it is the legal criterion for drunk driving and it is widely associated with generalized impairment (e.g. Fell & Voas, 2006), had no effect. Thus, looking across these and other studies it appears reasonable to conclude that until the BAC exceeds .08 mg%, women are likely to exhibit an arousal response pattern characterized by enhanced self-reported sexual arousal, no alcohol-induced diminution in genital arousal, and an effective capability to control their arousal response. This profile – combined with (1) the understanding that alcohol expectancies can moderate women’s sexual responding (e.g. Norris, Masters et al., 2004), (2) the AMT-theorized role of intoxication for fostering selective attention to sexually impelling situational cues, and (3) evidence that the mere presence of alcohol cues can heighten sexual inferences and appraisals (e.g. George & Stoner, 2000) – suggests that women’s post-drinking sexual responses are subject to considerable psychological variability and are not dictated by physiological imperatives or limits. However, this variability apparently decreases at higher dosages where it appears that intoxication effects may become less conducive to positive sexual responding and experience. Potentially, physiology related to high alcohol levels may overwhelm the sexuality-related response systems. Given heightened attention to alcohol effects on women’s sexual activities (e.g., Norris, Davis et al., 2004), such as HIV related sexual risk taking, more research into alcohol effects on these fundamental sexual responses is warranted. Diminished vaginal responding at the high dosage does not appear to curtail sexual risk taking (George et al., 2009), suggesting that many unanswered questions remain. In particular, research examining hormone responses as potential mediating mechanisms could prove valuable in further elucidating these relationships.​
 

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I absolutely love alcohol with sex.

I'm very tightly wound, and alcohol makes me feel uninhibited in a way that I'll simply never feel on my own.

Having said that, I'm pretty nunnish at the moment, and I haven't had sex in a looong time. And who knows if I'll ever have sex again, but if I do, alcohol will be involved. :D
 

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Yes there’s a sweet spot between zero and too much alcohol. Too much just makes me fall asleep so sex is a no go. Personally I don’t need alcohol to get all amped up, but when I do have a drink or two and have a nice glow, I get more physical and verbal and it’s pretty fun.

However, sex itself makes me high and is the best high of all. I feel love drunk for hours after sex and for the entire next day I’m in a dreamy place.
 

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I have noticed with my wife that a cocktail within an hour before sex and her orgasms are more frequent and more intense. I have pointed it out, and we have cautiously experimented with alcohol and cannabis. Yeah! When inhibitions are lowered, there are more frequent and intense orgasms. OTOH, I have to limit my alcohol intake as a) I use Cialis, and mixing the two is not recommended. b) I find that just a little too much alcohol, and I can go all night without orgasm. Can be frustrating. HOWEVER Cannabis intake (I use an indica strain, have used it for years for back pain, and oh boy) appears to enhance my pleasure. Oh the joys of experimentation. Any wonder why I am beginning to resent having to go into work regularly.
 

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I max out at 2 drinks. Anything over that and I get sloppy (my balance is the first thing to go for some reason) but way more cuddly/touchy than normal (that's a lot). Only issue is that I can't orgasm with any level of alcohol (1+). Now cannabis...... That is another story. One hit and I'm an orgasm cranking sex machine.
 

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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3159513/This is a bit of an eye opener, regarding alcohol, women & sexual desire/response. It comes up because our MC actually suggested that my wife might consider having a drink to help her relax. Do a bit of research on women, drinking & sex and what you find is that anything from a very very small amount of alcohol (less than a beer) up to something below the legal limit will likely increase a women's libido and sexual response, while anything over .08, in virtually all cases, may result in an increase in "risky" behavior but make sex less a "thing" being sought and make women less responsive. It did not cover the effect of alcohol on men. Maybe my counselor is onto something? And maybe even mild drinking on the first couple of dates might be something to avoid?


Conclusions
High dosage (.10 mg%) alcohol attenuated genital arousal in a sample of relatively young moderate drinking women. Our lower dosage (.08 mg%), which is widely recognized as substantially intoxicating in that it is the legal criterion for drunk driving and it is widely associated with generalized impairment (e.g. Fell & Voas, 2006), had no effect. Thus, looking across these and other studies it appears reasonable to conclude that until the BAC exceeds .08 mg%, women are likely to exhibit an arousal response pattern characterized by enhanced self-reported sexual arousal, no alcohol-induced diminution in genital arousal, and an effective capability to control their arousal response. This profile – combined with (1) the understanding that alcohol expectancies can moderate women’s sexual responding (e.g. Norris, Masters et al., 2004), (2) the AMT-theorized role of intoxication for fostering selective attention to sexually impelling situational cues, and (3) evidence that the mere presence of alcohol cues can heighten sexual inferences and appraisals (e.g. George & Stoner, 2000) – suggests that women’s post-drinking sexual responses are subject to considerable psychological variability and are not dictated by physiological imperatives or limits. However, this variability apparently decreases at higher dosages where it appears that intoxication effects may become less conducive to positive sexual responding and experience. Potentially, physiology related to high alcohol levels may overwhelm the sexuality-related response systems. Given heightened attention to alcohol effects on women’s sexual activities (e.g., Norris, Davis et al., 2004), such as HIV related sexual risk taking, more research into alcohol effects on these fundamental sexual responses is warranted. Diminished vaginal responding at the high dosage does not appear to curtail sexual risk taking (George et al., 2009), suggesting that many unanswered questions remain. In particular, research examining hormone responses as potential mediating mechanisms could prove valuable in further elucidating these relationships.​
"Candy is dandy but liquor is quicker"

Alcohol increases FREE testosterone. Women, though they secrete less T, they are far more sensitive to it insofar as libido response. Combine that with reduced inhibition, well, you get a couple of drinks in my wife and she doesn't take no for an answer - not that I ever say no.

I read stuff to this effect in the '90s.
 

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I have noticed with my wife that a cocktail within an hour before sex and her orgasms are more frequent and more intense. I have pointed it out, and we have cautiously experimented with alcohol and cannabis. Yeah! When inhibitions are lowered, there are more frequent and intense orgasms. OTOH, I have to limit my alcohol intake as a) I use Cialis, and mixing the two is not recommended. b) I find that just a little too much alcohol, and I can go all night without orgasm. Can be frustrating. HOWEVER Cannabis intake (I use an indica strain, have used it for years for back pain, and oh boy) appears to enhance my pleasure. Oh the joys of experimentation. Any wonder why I am beginning to resent having to go into work regularly.
I max out at 2 drinks. Anything over that and I get sloppy (my balance is the first thing to go for some reason) but way more cuddly/touchy than normal (that's a lot). Only issue is that I can't orgasm with any level of alcohol (1+). Now cannabis...... That is another story. One hit and I'm an orgasm cranking sex machine.
God I wish they would legalize weed in my state. :surprise:
 

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Yup. Plying my wife with alcohol is only plying her for a nap.

Looking forward to the day when we can try a little weed without a doctors note or a cop's ride.
The whole cannabis thing is very weird. It's now kind of common to pass a pipe or edibles around at a BBQ or whatever just like you'd offer someone a glass of wine or a beer.

We have a place in the mountains, and the busiest store in the little town nearby is the pot store. You can watch whole (adult) families go in and out. People my age will go in with their parents, and the older parents will be recommending certain kinds of pot to their 40-something kids. Imagine a grandma saying to her kids "ooh I tried this last weekend and the high was so amazing, come over this weekend and try it with us."

And it's all legal, fairly safe, and actually fairly cheap. Wild. I love it.
 

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The whole cannabis thing is very weird. It's now kind of common to pass a pipe or edibles around at a BBQ or whatever just like you'd offer someone a glass of wine or a beer.

We have a place in the mountains, and the busiest store in the little town nearby is the pot store. You can watch whole (adult) families go in and out. People my age will go in with their parents, and the older parents will be recommending certain kinds of pot to their 40-something kids. Imagine a grandma saying to her kids "ooh I tried this last weekend and the high was so amazing, come over this weekend and try it with us."

And it's all legal, fairly safe, and actually fairly cheap. Wild. I love it.
Its not safe Marduk. Gateway man, it's a gateway. And pot today is 10,000x more potent than your Grandpa's weed. We're doomed I tell ya, DOOMED!!
 

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God I wish they would legalize weed in my state. :surprise:
I was a criminal for years. From the age of 17 I cultivated, picked, dried and cured marijuana. In Canada, the sale of seeds was made legal decades ago. I started by growing it beside my neighbor's tomatoes, this was at my parents' place, and thank god, they had no idea what I was up to. (Actually my dad caught me with a cigarette while tending my plants, and was easily convinced that was the reason I was in our backyard most of the time.) I have grown indoors and outdoors. Canada made possession and consumption of cannabis legal on October 17, 2018. I am no longer a criminal. All of the fears that were espoused by our US neighbors has never come to pass. I have several brick and mortar dispensaries and I use a delivery service. A very beautiful "Island Girl" will arrive at my office, and leave me an ounce or so. (Lately my son has developed an attraction to said lady and has been taking my deliveries) The prices are tumbling here at present. I bought two ounces on sale last week. Weed, on sale, $110CDN/oz, never thought I would live to see this. I bought a hybrid with both indica and sativa notes, and an indica for my back and hips. I was on Ketorilac for back and hip pain. I ditched those pills two years ago. If I experience the pain, I go down to my "cave". On my desk is a lovely ornate box, inside are two glass airtight jars. I grind up a flower, and have 2-3 draws. I then return to whatever I was doing (no client work or driving for at least 3 hours after) Interestingly, now that it is legal, one dispensary has "bud-tenders" who will discuss flavor, and quality of the stone. There are now upper crust smoking devices: Old briar pipes once were completely out of fashion, have returned as well as ornate cigarette holders. I have built several nice water pipes, have lucked into a Syrian Hookah (Blue glass, 925 silver smoking apparatus composite bowl)
 

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In my experience, it's only a gateway to nachos, pizza, and watching the last 15 minutes of 2001 over and over.
A kindred spirit, AND back in 70, myself and two buddies did a massive bong bowl, then went to see 2001 in Cinerama. OMG. Dependent on the movie, my son and I (superhero flicks and Tarantino movies) will do a joint before settling into our seats. Made two errors that freaked me out: Do NOT see the Exorcist stoned. Do NOT see the Revenant stoned. (The bear scene will **** you up permanently)
 

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I love the taste of hard cider so much I can drink it like Kool aid! Lol!

I like how a few alcoholic drinks make me feel. I don't like to get drunk though. I don't like the feeling of not being in control of my body. After a couple of beers sex feels better.

I wish I could smoke a little pot now and then. It's still illegal where we live. The best and strongest pot I've ever smoked was in Jamaica. One hit and I was walking on the moon. Sex was amazing.

I drink in social situations. I don't think I've ever had a drink to help me relax for sex. I don't think my husband would like that... It's a bonus to sometimes feel aroused and relaxed after a party but not all the time.
 

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Its not safe Marduk. Gateway man, it's a gateway. And pot today is 10,000x more potent than your Grandpa's weed. We're doomed I tell ya, DOOMED!!
In my experience, it's only a gateway to nachos, pizza, and watching the last 15 minutes of 2001 over and over.
The munchies are exactly why I don't partake very often. If the pantry and fridge ar replenished, one toke and I can kiss all of my good diet habits out the window. I wish there was cannabis without the munchies side effects.
 

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A kindred spirit, AND back in 70, myself and two buddies did a massive bong bowl, then went to see 2001 in Cinerama. OMG. Dependent on the movie, my son and I (superhero flicks and Tarantino movies) will do a joint before settling into our seats. Made two errors that freaked me out: Do NOT see the Exorcist stoned. Do NOT see the Revenant stoned. (The bear scene will **** you up permanently)
The last 20 minutes of Akira or the opening sequence from the Ghost in the Shell anime are fun, too.

But I wouldn't go and watch the Shining or anything.
 

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The munchies are exactly why I don't partake very often. If the pantry and fridge ar replenished, one toke and I can kiss all of my good diet habits out the window. I wish there was cannabis without the munchies side effects.
Maybe just don't have that stuff in the house?

Have you ever eaten a really good orange stoned? It's an ecstatic experience.
 
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