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Wow, wallowing in the muck of some teen age lust fest from a summer?
And you're comparing your feelings for your husband with that?
You're settled in and don't like the predictability and lack of newness, that's what that sounds like.

I'm getting very concerned about what you're going to do to your H.
 

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Usually such fantasies about re-discoving your first love are totally harmless.

BUT, in this case that is not so. Instead of working on your marriage and fixing what is wrong....you are fantasizing about some other stuff.

A LOT of people marry someone they do not really love....and for all sorts of reasons. they got pregnant, they were financially destitute, they were pressured by their family.
But in most of those cases, over the years they LEARN TO LOVE their spouse.

I challenge you to learn to love your spouse right now. you have been married 8 years, but apparently not fruitful years. how about taking the next 6 months and really going all out to try to spark some real love between the two of you.

heck, if it does not happen after you have really tried....then you can finally say without guilt that it is never going to happen.

btw, you can still fantasize....just shift it to brad pitt, or whoever is a hot young guy right now that you like! Just give your husband some too!
 

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Print out your first post and show it to your husband. Maybe some honest communication will be what is need to get your marriage moving in a better direction… at least he’ll realize what he has gotten himself into.
 

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7-8 years is when you’re in the slog. So it’s only normal to question things and wonder if you made the right choice.

I know around the 7 year mark I was like hmm… is this right?

Well we’re pretty close to celebrating 25 years now and we’re firing on all cylinders. My advice to old me would be to figure out what is missing when you’re already with someone great and make it happen now; don’t take no for an answer.

If you’re lacking passion, why? What would fix it? Talk with your husband about it and figure it out together as a couple.
 
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