Those are all great ideas! They also want to send her care packages but I have to check and see if that is allowed.I remember visiting my Mom when she was hospitalized for almost a year. It was a horrible time in my childhood. Having her back and then ripped away again after the visit was pure torture. There is no other way to describe it.
It might help to give the kids some tasks that make them feel closer to her...color a picture, write her a story, etc. Something that their Mom really "needs" so they really want to do it to make her life better. Despite what she's done they miss her greatly and love her a lot. They need to feel like she also needs them and is not forgetting them in between the visits.
You're a good Dad to bring them. You've been really strong for them. I hope you enjoyed that drink...you deserved it!!!
I agreed to bring them every two weeks if I am able to work it into our daily schedule. I am not going to interrupt the kids plans (band, after school activities, etc.) just to placate the EX