It’s okay!! My therapist said the same thing!! Actually two different ones. I take no blame for him cheating, non!!! He was a miserable husband that was verbally abusive and emotionally abusive. I did not have sexy with him during that time and he knew exactly why!!!SERIOUSLY, Cas??!How did that go (talking with her husband)?
Also, what has intimacy with your husband been like, historically? Prior, during and now? Was he looking for something that he wasn't getting at home? If so, had this been addressed previously via counseling or conversation even?