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So quick backstory, I've been in a sexless marriage for several years. We never really had a lot of sex before marriage, generally because she always had a reason she couldn't today... not feeling well, sore, stressed, not in the mood, etc.
That continued into the marriage, with me becoming more cognizant of the fact that there's nobody who's sick or feeling under the weather all the time. We'd fight about it, I read "Hold Onto Your Nuts" and "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and started working them into my life. Then she started complaining that I don't initiate sex anymore... which struck me as odd, but I realized it's true.
I no longer try to have sex with her. If she's in the mood, it annoys me - I feel like she's just trying to get my attention. Which she probably is.
The thing is, I still enjoy it when we have sex, but I am just... not motivated to try. I'm also more and more aware of the attractive women around me, on the train, at friends' parties, wherever. I've never cheated on her, nor she on me, and I recognize that she is still quite attractive. But... I just don't feel like I want her.
Anyone experienced this? At one point I chalked it up to her denying sex leading to me no longer viewing her as a sexual being. Don't know if that holds any water, though.
That continued into the marriage, with me becoming more cognizant of the fact that there's nobody who's sick or feeling under the weather all the time. We'd fight about it, I read "Hold Onto Your Nuts" and "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and started working them into my life. Then she started complaining that I don't initiate sex anymore... which struck me as odd, but I realized it's true.
I no longer try to have sex with her. If she's in the mood, it annoys me - I feel like she's just trying to get my attention. Which she probably is.
The thing is, I still enjoy it when we have sex, but I am just... not motivated to try. I'm also more and more aware of the attractive women around me, on the train, at friends' parties, wherever. I've never cheated on her, nor she on me, and I recognize that she is still quite attractive. But... I just don't feel like I want her.
Anyone experienced this? At one point I chalked it up to her denying sex leading to me no longer viewing her as a sexual being. Don't know if that holds any water, though.