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a little background: i am new to this and talking about problems online. i am the type of guy that keeps his problems to himself until something sets me off. my wife and i have been married for 3 years and dated another 1 year. she has two kids and i have two kids. her kids live with us and my visit on the weekends. neither of her kids see their dads her son was one when i met him so i consider him my son and her daughter was 8 when i met her so she does the whole testing me that i did to my stepdad, i understand that.
my problem: my wife got a promotion at her work about 8 months ago which i have tried to be supportive. i am really happy for her. by supportive i mean taken care of the kids after school cooking cleaning and helping with homework or whatever else comes up. she works from 7:00 a.m to 8:00 p.m. so when she does get home she is so tired she just goes to bed. when she is home i try to include her with games that i am playing with the kids or just taking them for a walk, but she will not participate. also when things happen child gets sick, or when grandma has something going on and needs the kids to be picked up after school i am the one that does it, usually my wife can not be contacted she doesnt answer our phone calls at her work (by her choice). whenever i try to talk to her and ask her for help or if she could get off work a little earlier it only last for about a week. and we argue about once a month and last month she told me not to make her choose between her job and her family. i told her that i didnt want her quit her job just get the hours down to something to where she do what is needed at home.
her job is a director for a small state funded agency and she makes decent money nothing spectacular. i am a commercial project manager for a mechanical contracter and i make really good money and my stress level at work is high. i feel like a single parent.
i love my wife very much, but i am very unhappy. she has even been heard to say to people that being at work gets her out of trick or treating with her family.
am just being blind to just keep my marriage together or should i just say enough is enough cause the signals she is sending me is she doesnt want a marriage.
a little background: i am new to this and talking about problems online. i am the type of guy that keeps his problems to himself until something sets me off. my wife and i have been married for 3 years and dated another 1 year. she has two kids and i have two kids. her kids live with us and my visit on the weekends. neither of her kids see their dads her son was one when i met him so i consider him my son and her daughter was 8 when i met her so she does the whole testing me that i did to my stepdad, i understand that.
my problem: my wife got a promotion at her work about 8 months ago which i have tried to be supportive. i am really happy for her. by supportive i mean taken care of the kids after school cooking cleaning and helping with homework or whatever else comes up. she works from 7:00 a.m to 8:00 p.m. so when she does get home she is so tired she just goes to bed. when she is home i try to include her with games that i am playing with the kids or just taking them for a walk, but she will not participate. also when things happen child gets sick, or when grandma has something going on and needs the kids to be picked up after school i am the one that does it, usually my wife can not be contacted she doesnt answer our phone calls at her work (by her choice). whenever i try to talk to her and ask her for help or if she could get off work a little earlier it only last for about a week. and we argue about once a month and last month she told me not to make her choose between her job and her family. i told her that i didnt want her quit her job just get the hours down to something to where she do what is needed at home.
her job is a director for a small state funded agency and she makes decent money nothing spectacular. i am a commercial project manager for a mechanical contracter and i make really good money and my stress level at work is high. i feel like a single parent.
i love my wife very much, but i am very unhappy. she has even been heard to say to people that being at work gets her out of trick or treating with her family.
am just being blind to just keep my marriage together or should i just say enough is enough cause the signals she is sending me is she doesnt want a marriage.