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Ok I have been with my husband for 14 years. We have five children ages 14, 11,10,8 and 5
. He is always on the porn sites and watching his dvds. Now I don't have a problem with watching it with him sometimes either. We seen our sex life was getting a little boring so we decided to kinda dabbled in the swing lifestyle a little bit about 2 years ago. We’ve been to a few parties a few swing clubs had a few private sessions and even been to a resort. Now I feel like ok we did it we had fun now that’s it. I’m not interested in it anymore. When you think about it its not really safe. Yeah there are condoms involved but when it come to oral who really uses a condom. I know we haven’t. I can’t imagine going all these years practicing safe sex then getting something from doing something so stupid. Another thing is how am I constantly talking to my teenage son about the importance of safe sex if we’re out here not practicing it. The entire thing just turns me off completely. ---- Aside from all of that a lot has been going on in my life and I became very depressed. I’m sure you all know anti depressants lower your sex drive. So I came off of them but my drive is still not back to where it use to be. When we have sex and I try to give it to him at least 2 or 3 times a week, its great I enjoy it once we’re in the act. Its just getting into “it” is where my problem is. I don't feel like it. I’d rather go to sleep.:sleeping: He gets upset and tells me I need to bring some excitement back into the bedroom he’s tired of beating. Dress up, pull out the toys, let me put it in your butt, he says. #1 outfits aren’t cheap and in case you forgot we have 5 count them 5 kids who aren’t cheap either. #2 the toys don't do anything for me anymore. I love having my husband inside of me not that fake thing. #3 I did like anal but this might be TMI but I have hemorrhoids and it hurts when we try to do it now so I don't want to even try anymore. I feel like I give it to him a lot and if he wants some excitement whats wrong with him doing something. I don't see him dressing up/ buying outfits. Shoot I would like some simple foreplay (not oral) that turns me on. I have told him this several time but is he following thru NO! Now don't get it twisted when he puts it down he puts it down but now that the kids are getting older we cant be as loud as I’d like to be. And thats kinda takes away for it too. Is it me? Am I board with him and just don't realize it? Am I boring? What can I do to bring the fire back? Mrs. IDK!!!!:scratchhead: