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Just out of curiosity...does it bother you if your hubby watches porn and masturbates while you are not around? If he is spending hours upon hours watching porn everyday than obviously that is a problem BUT I just want to know if your hubby occasionally does this, is this a problem for you?

I mean I watch porn and masturbate while my husband is not around but that does not mean I am unsatisfied or want another man.


Just curious about what your views are on this subject. ;)
 

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I have no problem with my partner watching porn and/or masturbating because we have a great sex life and he is open and honest about this. I do know that he watches porn less and masturbates less than in his past marriage because he is now having his needs met.

If he were to watch porn and/or masturbate but was ignoring me sexually then I would be pissed off and do something about it.
 

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Nope, doesn't bother me in my current relationship because our sex life is good to begin with and my partner is very open and honest about the whole thing.

I have no problems with porn and masturbation in general; the one time I DID get upset was when I dated a man who kept a little DVD player in his bathroom for those purposes and lied to me about what it was for. I wound up breaking up with him in part over that, because I don't want to date someone who lies to my face like that.
 

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It didn't used to, but it does now. We've agreed that at this time it isn't something either of us will do.
 

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It does bother me but I would not stop him from it unless it became a problem.

But like at the same time...honestly...I'm as hot as I will EVER be. I'm not going to get any hotter. I'm literally at my peak. I weigh nothing, I have curves, nothing is sagging, I don't need make up....

It would probably bother me because if he's starting now, what's he gonna do when I'm saggy?

It would bother me because I would feel inadequate.
 

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My hubby doesn't watch porn, but it wouldn't bug me at all (in fact I've even encouraged him to lol) im not the jealous type and we have a good sex life. I mean It would bother me if he would rather watch porn then have sex with me because im pretty much open to anything, but I don't see that ever happening, I think the only way I'd get him to watch porn is if we would watch it together (which we kinda have already)
 

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In the beginning of my marriage (many years ago) the porn really bothered me. Thanks to Dan Savage, now I know that *all* men watch porn. Here's what bothers me about porn: using porn when you say you are really a) working b) using it so much that your work spills into your evening, taking time away from your family c) using it so much that you would rather stay home by yourself and/or miss key events d) having sex with me and then looking at porn within 24 hours (don't know why, that just bugs me) etc etc etc
 

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Yes it really bothers me. In fact I'd leave.

I don't like the thought of people using other people and commodifying them for their sexual gratification.

I don't like that they use barely legal and sometimes not legal girls.

I don't like that they use actual sex slaves.

I don't like the the most looked at porn is highly degrading to women and increasingly violent.

I want my SO to treat women with respect at all times.

I also don't believe that using other people sexually strengthens your bond, but it does weaken it.

I have also read many studies that show that men who regularly watch porn have less empathy for women then those that don't.

I could go on, but really it leaves a bad taste in my mouth and sickens me.

If he wants to be sexual he can come to me any time. :)
 

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Yes it really bothers me. In fact I'd leave.

I don't like the thought of people using other people and commodifying them for their sexual gratification.

I don't like that they use barely legal and sometimes not legal girls.

I don't like that they use actual sex slaves.

I don't like the the most looked at porn is highly degrading to women and increasingly violent.

I want my SO to treat women with respect at all times.

I also don't believe that using other people sexually strengthens your bond, but it does weaken it.

I have also read many studies that show that men who regularly watch porn have less empathy for women then those that don't.

I could go on, but really it leaves a bad taste in my mouth and sickens me.

If he wants to be sexual he can come to me any time. :)
As a girl who was 18 a very short time ago I CANNOT agree with this more.

The barely legal thing is frankly, ****ing disgusting and strikes me as borderline pedophella.

Schoolgirls with pigtails? "Oh, I'm 16 and a virgin..."

It disturbs me that society as a whole has come to think that's OK.
 

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No, it wouldn't bother me if there's no addiction to it and if it shows acts between consenting adults and isn't anything extreme (blood, poop, pee, lots of pain).
 

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No, it wouldn't bother me if there's no addiction to it and if it shows acts between consenting adults and isn't anything extreme (blood, poop, pee, lots of pain).
Does the barely legal stuff bother you? I'm just wondering because my Aunt and Uncle had a HUGE public row about it once they'd both had a few drinks not too long ago.

I was 19 at the time and she suddenly points to me and goes

"THOSE GIRLS ARE HER AGE. THEY ARE THE SAME AGE AS YOUR NIECE. YOU'RE A SICK BASTARD"

Literally in the middle of a cook out. Literally. Mortifying.

He of course calls her all manner of names and says "THEY'RE 18, IT'S TOTALLY LEGAL"

They are now divorced....

so just wondering, would that bother you?
 

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LittleBird - Looking at a hot 19 year old probably wouldn't bother me, but I also know that's not what his interests are. How different is it from the 18 and 19 year olds scantily clad in sexy softcore poses in GQ, Esquire, Maxim, Sports Illustrated's swimsuit edition and so many other men's magazines? And your aunt was wrong to shame your uncle that way in public.
 

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LittleBird - Looking at a hot 19 year old probably wouldn't bother me, but I also know that's not what his interests are. How different is it from the 18 and 19 year olds scantily clad in sexy softcore poses in GQ, Esquire, Maxim, Sports Illustrated's swimsuit edition and so many other men's magazines? And your aunt was wrong to shame your uncle that way in public.
My uncle was a huge, huge bastard who watched WAY too much porn and the great majority if it (it is well known among the family now) had to do with schoolgirls with stuffed animals on the bed, the actresses were 18 IMO but they tried to look like CHILDREN.

That gives me the heeby jeebies. That's probably my biggest gross out about porn is the fact that old men are watching young girls like it's totally not creepy.
 

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Yes it bothers me, didn't really used to until we stopped having sex, for months on end.. That is when I started having issues with porn.

I left over it.. He wasn't going to stop and well he got a HUGE wake up call, when I walked out. It is no longer welcome in this house, due to what happened... And my H knows what will happen if i come across it again!
 

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Honestly, yes. But that's because of the type of porn he watches.
 
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