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True story:

Our best couple friends that we have had since we were dating and us had always had pretty open dialogue in regards to sexuality.

We would travel together periodically and we would always make a point of going to adult shoppes together and if we got a cabin together we would each be getting it on in our own bedrooms but make no attempt to be quiet and then the next day joke and banter about how it must have been a good night for everyone or if we had adjoining hotel rooms we’d joke that other people on the floor couldn’t get any sleep etc.

The other wife in particular was always very open and bold about her desires and at times would just announce that she was really horny and they needed to have sex and would take him by the hand and go to their room,, and then the next day say that it was a good night —— 5 times LOL

This went on for over 15 years.

Then one night they basically propositioned us and told they had been talking and that they wanted to expand their sexual repertoire and wanted to have a couple/couple experience with us.

What is ironic is we had been active swingers for years and had never even hinted about anything like that with them, and they were very religious and active church members and much more prim and proper than us, but yet they were the ones that were propositioning us.

(And no, they did not know we had been swingers and still do not know)

So you could say that having a sexually open dialogue and friendly sexual banter with friends worked out quite well for us LOL 😉
 

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True story:

Our best couple friends that we have had since we were dating and us had always had pretty open dialogue in regards to sexuality.

We would travel together periodically and we would always make a point of going to adult shoppes together and if we got a cabin together we would each be getting it on in our own bedrooms but make no attempt to be quiet and then the next day joke and banter about how it must have been a good night for everyone or if we had adjoining hotel rooms we’d joke that other people on the floor couldn’t get any sleep etc.

The other wife in particular was always very open and bold about her desires and at times would just announce that she was really horny and they needed to have sex and would take him by the hand and go to their room,, and then the next day say that it was a good night —— 5 times LOL

This went on for over 15 years.

Then one night they basically propositioned us and told they had been talking and that they wanted to expand their sexual repertoire and wanted to have a couple/couple experience with us.

What is ironic is we had been active swingers for years and had never even hinted about anything like that with them, and they were very religious and active church members and much more prim and proper than us, but yet they were the ones that were propositioning us.

(And no, they did not know we had been swingers and still do not know)

So you could say that having a sexually open dialogue and friendly sexual banter with friends worked out quite well for us LOL 😉
They were very religious 😂😂😂
 

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True story:

Our best couple friends that we have had since we were dating and us had always had pretty open dialogue in regards to sexuality.

We would travel together periodically and we would always make a point of going to adult shoppes together and if we got a cabin together we would each be getting it on in our own bedrooms but make no attempt to be quiet and then the next day joke and banter about how it must have been a good night for everyone or if we had adjoining hotel rooms we’d joke that other people on the floor couldn’t get any sleep etc.

The other wife in particular was always very open and bold about her desires and at times would just announce that she was really horny and they needed to have sex and would take him by the hand and go to their room,, and then the next day say that it was a good night —— 5 times LOL

This went on for over 15 years.

Then one night they basically propositioned us and told they had been talking and that they wanted to expand their sexual repertoire and wanted to have a couple/couple experience with us.

What is ironic is we had been active swingers for years and had never even hinted about anything like that with them, and they were very religious and active church members and much more prim and proper than us, but yet they were the ones that were propositioning us.

(And no, they did not know we had been swingers and still do not know)

So you could say that having a sexually open dialogue and friendly sexual banter with friends worked out quite well for us LOL 😉
So I take it you accepted their offer? I have to admit it is hard for me to not have a somewhat voyeuristic view of that kind of lifestyle, but I could never imagine actually engaging in it with my wife and any of our friends.
 

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So I take it you accepted their offer? I have to admit it is hard for me to not have a somewhat voyeuristic view of that kind of lifestyle, but I could never imagine actually engaging in it with my wife and any of our friends.
To be honest, when the proposal was made, I was a bit gobsmacked.

In fact, when my wife and I started having our first discussions about swinging, one of the very first ground rules we established was that we would never mingle with any traditional friends or coworkers, neighbors etc etc, we would swing strictly with swingers and keep traditional friends tradition and that we would never be “out” and that we would always keep our private matters private.

We have never told a soul about our private life and here on TAM is the only place and the only people I’ve ever discussed it with.

We were hesitant at first and did discuss it at length for a few months before deciding there was no real tangible reason not to.

We were good friends and had good open communication and we were all decent compassionate and respectful people and we all decided that the only reasons not to were fear-based and that we would be able to work through any bumps in the road that might come up.

This was over half dozen years ago. We got with them a few times had some fun and some laughs. The other wife and I got on like porn stars (we are both the HLs in our marriages) but the other husband and my wife never really clicked sexually even though they are both better looking people than the other wife and I. They are both the LLs of our marriages so they never really got off the ground sexually.

After a few times, we just went back to being traditional couple friends and are still best couple friends but haven’t done anything sexual in half dozen or more years.
 

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To be honest, when the proposal was made, I was a bit gobsmacked.

In fact, when my wife and I started having our first discussions about swinging, one of the very first ground rules we established was that we would never mingle with any traditional friends or coworkers, neighbors etc etc, we would swing strictly with swingers and keep traditional friends tradition and that we would never be “out” and that we would always keep our private matters private.

We have never told a soul about our private life and here on TAM is the only place and the only people I’ve ever discussed it with.

We were hesitant at first and did discuss it at length for a few months before deciding there was no real tangible reason not to.

We were good friends and had good open communication and we were all decent compassionate and respectful people and we all decided that the only reasons not to were fear-based and that we would be able to work through any bumps in the road that might come up.

This was over half dozen years ago. We got with them a few times had some fun and some laughs. The other wife and I got on like porn stars (we are both the HLs in our marriages) but the other husband and my wife never really clicked sexually even though they are both better looking people than the other wife and I. They are both the LLs of our marriages so they never really got off the ground sexually.

After a few times, we just went back to being traditional couple friends and are still best couple friends but haven’t done anything sexual in half dozen or more years.
I'm really impressed that the friendship held up after that. I guess it speaks to the depth of the friendship. As I'm sure you know very well it is quite difficult for someone not into this to really wrap their mind around it. It is hard to believe from my perspective that it would work, but obviously it can.
 

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I don’t. My friends aren’t interested in one a other’s sex lives. I wouldn’t want to discuss something like that and have my friends looking differently at my SO...

we talk about engines, dogs, cars, construction, work, fishing, hunting, politics...

Talking about sex in my experience is something that happens among kids or adults who aren’t getting enough.
 

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I'm really impressed that the friendship held up after that. I guess it speaks to the depth of the friendship. As I'm sure you know very well it is quite difficult for someone not into this to really wrap their mind around it. It is hard to believe from my perspective that it would work, but obviously it can.
I actually thinks it goes on a lot more than what any of us realize.

If you knew them, you would never dream in a million years that they would do something like this.

They are very active in their church. Very religious. Very by the book and proper in all areas of their life.

We were thoroughly shocked when they propositioned us and they were probably a bit shocked when we took them up on it because my wife and I do not appear anything other than completely mainstream and traditional as well.

If fact if you were to meet my wife and I, you would never dream we would either. Although very slender and good looking, my wife is very shy and not all that sociable in general. And you may not think I have ever had much sex AT ALL, as I am very average in stature and looks and often quite nerdy.

If this can happen with us, it probably happens the whole world over a lot and people just don’t talk about it.
 

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To be honest, when the proposal was made, I was a bit gobsmacked.

In fact, when my wife and I started having our first discussions about swinging, one of the very first ground rules we established was that we would never mingle with any traditional friends or coworkers, neighbors etc etc, we would swing strictly with swingers and keep traditional friends tradition and that we would never be “out” and that we would always keep our private matters private.

We have never told a soul about our private life and here on TAM is the only place and the only people I’ve ever discussed it with.

We were hesitant at first and did discuss it at length for a few months before deciding there was no real tangible reason not to.

We were good friends and had good open communication and we were all decent compassionate and respectful people and we all decided that the only reasons not to were fear-based and that we would be able to work through any bumps in the road that might come up.

This was over half dozen years ago. We got with them a few times had some fun and some laughs. The other wife and I got on like porn stars (we are both the HLs in our marriages) but the other husband and my wife never really clicked sexually even though they are both better looking people than the other wife and I. They are both the LLs of our marriages so they never really got off the ground sexually.

After a few times, we just went back to being traditional couple friends and are still best couple friends but haven’t done anything sexual in half dozen or more years.
I can think of two couples - one whom we do have pillow talk about now and then - whose such offer would be mighty difficult to ignore. Great story, thanks for sharing.
 

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I have one best friend that I talk to about sex but not that into detail. And it’s always about issues because I’m going to her first help, or to feel understood. It’s never to brag or anything like that.
 
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