Walk Away Wife
Separated for 3 months but still under the same roof til the end of the year . The court day ( in front of the judge ) is in 3 days - 11-30 .Thanks BM, how long have you been separated from you WAW? Was there a OM?
I have been 180ing and no contact for the last 4 weeks, only contact that we have is via text and when we exchange the kids, which i keep conversations about them and short.
We have been physically seperated for 2.5 months.
It sucks for who ?BUT, will I be available when that time comes.......I doubt it. It sucks, but so is life.
The wayward, kids, etc.It sucks for who ?
And THIS is why I say: What has the Wayward done to deal with their baggage? Have they changed, in fact, who they are in order to handle a balanced relationship going forward. Most instances, no they have not. They just got lonely enough and the previous pain had become a memory. They fall back in love and start the WHOLE DANG PROCESS AGAIN.my waw did 8 years ago and we had a great marraige after, including 2 more kids, BUT when things started to go worng again, all the mis trust issue came back, shes gone again now and is divorcing me
Her time away - i let go to the back of my head - but when it started to go srong this time it all came back, i cudnt traust her and started to argue with her - she then left
From her part, she started by saying she wasing going to make our marriage as it worked last time then said shed done once before s wasnt going through again - its now all over
36, its crazy isnt it, my WAW said something similar to her mom, that she did not feel the love any more, last time she left she admintted to still being in love and that is what kept her from leaving permanently.my waw did 8 years ago and we had a great marraige after, including 2 more kids, BUT when things started to go worng again, all the mis trust issue came back, shes gone again now and is divorcing me
Her time away - i let go to the back of my head - but when it started to go srong this time it all came back, i cudnt traust her and started to argue with her - she then left
From her part, she started by saying she wasing going to make our marriage as it worked last time then said shed done once before s wasnt going through again - its now all over
Mine exactly the same - every excuse going - ive done everything to put right - she isnt interested, i still think in a yr or 2 she think oh ****, but be too l8 then as divorce going through36, its crazy isnt it, my WAW said something similar to her mom, that she did not feel the love any more, last time she left she admintted to still being in love and that is what kept her from leaving permanently.
This time she is saying that it is truly over, that her hurt runs deeper than her love for me. She is making every excuse to justify her leaving, "it will be better for the boys, they wont know the difference, we will be better parents, we will be happier alone, etc" all BS.
I really thing that when she wakes up and gets out of her fog, she will be like, o snap, what did i do. By then it may be too late for me, as i am doing so much self discovery i really am liking the person that i am. I am becoming who i was before i was married, a strong, attractive, confident, man.![]()
The wayward, kids, etc.
Because I have forgiven her. She is a broken person. She lacks the support and ability to find her way. I want the best for her moving forward, and I know her current path only leads to more destruction and regret. It does suck for her, and my children to a point.Why do you care what she feels ? Because of the kids ?
I agree, this was the hardest thing for me to deal with. THe fact that my children (3 & 1.5) would not experience what it is like to have mom and dad raising them together in the same house.Because I have forgiven her. She is a broken person. She lacks the support and ability to find her way. I want the best for her moving forward, and I know her current path only leads to more destruction and regret. It does suck for her, and my children to a point.