He likely will not change. It is rare for an abuser to change--he would have to sincerely want to change, and if he is telling you to forget the past (i.e. his abuses of the past), then he likely isn't even ready to admit that he is an abuser.
If he attends therapy for his anger issues, either self-motivated or court-ordered, he would have to attend for the rest of his life or risk backsliding into his abusive habits.
Has his violence towards you escalated, or worsened, at each encounter?
My estrange always said why can't you forget the past and move forward, but he would never allow me to discuss anything.
Because in their mind they justify every thing they have ever said or done to you, it doesn't really bother them.
They do not change.
My estranged has spent plenty of time in anger management therapy, he still to this day is aggressive towards me, pushing shoving and blocking my way, he certainly hasn't learnt to back off even when you are trying to escape.
He is in psychotherapy aswell now.
He still think's there is an us, for god sake no way, he asked if i would go to MC, apparently there is something wrong with me because i don't want to go with him, as far as i am concerned it is over.
To OP, please give up and don't waste any more time on him.
oh yeah they tell you you are to sensitive, then you are second guessing yourself, thinking you are, so maybe i was when he crushed my hand or locked me in his shop, then called me every name under the sun, starved me and shoved stale bread in my face telling me to eat it, by the way i am a non diabetic hypoglycaemic , which means i can get serious low blood sugar, so dangerous to starve me, or left me at a garage in the middle of down town LA late at night, no clothes or money, the officer said i was a very lucky not to been raped, oh well i must be to sensitive too
