It sounds like you are the Energizer Bunny !!Hes contines to gain weight and not nit do anything about it and unless I make him a list, he wont think about the things that need to get done around the house. Hes a good man and we have talked about this over and over with no solution. I can be extremely nerotic about getting things done and he is lazy in his thinking and doing. I dont think I can change my desire to want things to get done, how can I help him become a better man.
His job sounds very long, getting up early & coming home late, is it very physically demanding ? You say he is exhausted on weekends.
Does your husband get bent out of shape with your lists - does he feel like you are nagging him? I think this is a case where you both look through different lenses to how to enjoy life... he would rather relax, kick back (maybe a little too much), whereas you are a Project Mama -thinking of what needs done next week /next month... & admit to being a little nerotic.about it.
If you both could find a happy medium here, it would be a good start.... you tune it DOWN just a little...less expectations...with him tuning it UP some ..... what kinds of things are on this weekend list that he bulks at - for example ?