I married the love of my life June 25th, 2011. We have been dating altogether for almost 4 years straight, only minor bumps along the way. He is the best husband anyone could ever ask for, and means everything to me. When we started dating I had a general idea of his past but not anything real specific. From what I heard here and there was that he had "been" with a lot of girls but that didn't stop me. I also knew that his longest relationship was no more than 6 months, if that. His past never really bothered me until one day I thought, "I'm about to marry this guy and don't know anything about his sexual past." After thinking of how to bring it up for many days, finally I asked him what was his "number". He told me he didn't keep a tally but he had a general idea of around 30-40 girls and that he didn't want to talk about it anymore. I wanted to know but then again I didn't. He never wants to talk about his past and if I bring it up, he quickly changes subjects. Once, I asked him who his true love was and he said I was his first TRUE love. Well, tonight as we were lying in bed about to go to sleep we were casually talking about things of the past and he said the first girl he actually cared for was named Joy. I already knew about Joy because a few years back, when we had first started dating, she had called him and left a voicemail with the song "You'll always be my baby" by Mariah Carey playing. He shrugged it off and said whatever and I've never heard anything else out of her or about her. I asked my husband tonight if he still thinks about her and he said no. I may be over analyzing the situation but I just wanted to hear from someone else if I should be worried or let it go? I tend to over analyze situations like this but sometimes I've wondered if he gave me his whole heart or if some one still has it?