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The hubs and I had a meltdown last night in front of his brother and his gf. It was all really stupid. I talked about taking a trip and getting a bottle of wine. Which lead him to some stupid incident where I poured out and 18 pack of beer. Well not really stupid at, all at the time I gave him my last 10 bucks to buy me tampons he bought beer. After I poured out the 18 pack he went and bought a 30 pack just to get even. But that was old **** so I let it go.
I started washing dishes and he brought up a comment I made to one of his friends about how he's gotta pack his stuff cause the brother was coming back to town. The friend was dating one of my friends and she had a major crush on the hubs brother. I had been rude to the guy because she spent the whole day before complaining about how he didn't pay for anything and wouldn't have sex with her. It was rude and not necessary the right thing to do but I have apologized she has not forgiven me but continues to talk to the hubs and has since broke up with the guy in question. The past is the past and I cannot change it so why even bring it up? It was stupid I felt like he was trying to create problems with his brother and his gf.
All and all it took a perfectly normal evening and made it totally award and uncomfortable and lead to a lot of crying and venting to his brothers gf. She basically said her and his brother think its time to call it quits. This morning I told him how I'm done, that this hate-rid and resentment is killing our relationship and I don't believe things will ever change. I've begun to fill out paperwork to separate and establish custody of our children. He texts me and says he wants to desperately work things out. He says lets start over completely and let things go.
I don't believe it will work without therapy but he just wants to move forward. I asked him to stop drinking and I would like him to smoke a lot less pot. I've always used those things to justify his rude and abusive behavior. I think that in hoping things will work that it makes me clinically insane. Thoughts?
I started washing dishes and he brought up a comment I made to one of his friends about how he's gotta pack his stuff cause the brother was coming back to town. The friend was dating one of my friends and she had a major crush on the hubs brother. I had been rude to the guy because she spent the whole day before complaining about how he didn't pay for anything and wouldn't have sex with her. It was rude and not necessary the right thing to do but I have apologized she has not forgiven me but continues to talk to the hubs and has since broke up with the guy in question. The past is the past and I cannot change it so why even bring it up? It was stupid I felt like he was trying to create problems with his brother and his gf.
All and all it took a perfectly normal evening and made it totally award and uncomfortable and lead to a lot of crying and venting to his brothers gf. She basically said her and his brother think its time to call it quits. This morning I told him how I'm done, that this hate-rid and resentment is killing our relationship and I don't believe things will ever change. I've begun to fill out paperwork to separate and establish custody of our children. He texts me and says he wants to desperately work things out. He says lets start over completely and let things go.
I don't believe it will work without therapy but he just wants to move forward. I asked him to stop drinking and I would like him to smoke a lot less pot. I've always used those things to justify his rude and abusive behavior. I think that in hoping things will work that it makes me clinically insane. Thoughts?