I played (currently play) the nesting game - I live in the basement, the kids and the ex live in the house. If I got kicked out, we would lose the house and the great school district, besides she's extremely reasonable and we parted on good terms, so my situation is different.
However, I think you need to have a conversation with her. You're a p*ssy whipped husband who gets no p*ssy. This is a relationship, you need to lay down the law, probably should have done that before the marriage. Have a conversation, dictate terms. Be cold, be unemotional. Lay down the facts, lay down what you can't handle and ffs, don't get flustered - she may cry, scream, or otherwise try to browbeat you, be firm.
I recomment you find a friend who's place you can crash at beforehand, she may kick you out. One way or another, you can't be in a relationship where someone dictates the terms, that's just not on. It's not healthy. And trust me - the kids will pick up on your frustration.
However, I think you need to have a conversation with her. You're a p*ssy whipped husband who gets no p*ssy. This is a relationship, you need to lay down the law, probably should have done that before the marriage. Have a conversation, dictate terms. Be cold, be unemotional. Lay down the facts, lay down what you can't handle and ffs, don't get flustered - she may cry, scream, or otherwise try to browbeat you, be firm.
I recomment you find a friend who's place you can crash at beforehand, she may kick you out. One way or another, you can't be in a relationship where someone dictates the terms, that's just not on. It's not healthy. And trust me - the kids will pick up on your frustration.
