I met my girlfriend about a year ago, we met and after few months later she has become pregnant. Upon delivering the news, I got disoriented and has become very stressed on this news. My initial reaction was to abortion and her was to carry to term. Later on we both agreed on to not to have abortion. This is due to the fact that we consider the abortion is terminating a life and she is post-abortive.
Now our relationship has become a boiling point and she has became a very raging person and I have become very tired and disoriented. We are trying to talk our way but more we exert effort more we seem to be in not being able to understand each other.
I talked to the pregnancy counselor today and explained my behavior and she said I am exhibiting the symptoms of depression. Now I am considering what I am supposed to do about the relationship. I usually in touch with her every 1-2 days and more than that she becames quite angry and carping. I am thinking about two possibilities, minimize the conversation and frequency of conversation between us during the emotional time until birth. This is because if we try to reconcialate it just seem to be making things worse.
Part of the problem is that although I did not want this pregnancy initially, I am having hard time bonding with the child and quite terrified about talking about the baby with her. She very wants the baby but the fact I am not bonding enough seem to be putting a lot of strain in our relationship. I just dont know if I will have a strength to carry with her term. Since keeping in touch seem to be making things worse and lot of emotional damage, I am very concerned that eventually it is going to lead us to resenting each other alltogether.
I am considering about whether I should avoid contact till the term and meet her afterward. I know it will sound selfish on my respect but this way we can minimize the emotional damage to each other. BEcause currently we are seem to be in deadlock. Please give some advice.
Now our relationship has become a boiling point and she has became a very raging person and I have become very tired and disoriented. We are trying to talk our way but more we exert effort more we seem to be in not being able to understand each other.
I talked to the pregnancy counselor today and explained my behavior and she said I am exhibiting the symptoms of depression. Now I am considering what I am supposed to do about the relationship. I usually in touch with her every 1-2 days and more than that she becames quite angry and carping. I am thinking about two possibilities, minimize the conversation and frequency of conversation between us during the emotional time until birth. This is because if we try to reconcialate it just seem to be making things worse.
Part of the problem is that although I did not want this pregnancy initially, I am having hard time bonding with the child and quite terrified about talking about the baby with her. She very wants the baby but the fact I am not bonding enough seem to be putting a lot of strain in our relationship. I just dont know if I will have a strength to carry with her term. Since keeping in touch seem to be making things worse and lot of emotional damage, I am very concerned that eventually it is going to lead us to resenting each other alltogether.
I am considering about whether I should avoid contact till the term and meet her afterward. I know it will sound selfish on my respect but this way we can minimize the emotional damage to each other. BEcause currently we are seem to be in deadlock. Please give some advice.