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Another thread prompted me to ask.

Did you ever tell your husband that another guy in your past was "bigger" or "better" ??

What was his reaction? If there was resulting destruction of your relationship, did you overcome it ? How ?
 

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Does this topic ever end? Be happy with what you've got and learn to work with it.

Do not ask questions that you don't want the answer to, simple as that. If the man didn't ask for that information and the woman just goes around telling everyone about Tom's 10" ****, well, she probably sucks as a human being anyway.

My wife has been with someone bigger. She has also been with someone who "felt better" and was overall just "better" with a **** that is "pretty much the exact same size" as mine. Did she volunteer that information? No. I asked (okay, demanded) and she eventually answered.

Oh, and she also cheated with both of 'em. 99% of the time I honestly do not care. I really don't think about it anymore than I do the guy before me who was smaller. So did I "overcome" it? Sure. Did I obsess over it in the beginning? Yep, a lot. Like, A LOT. But you can either choose to get over it and work on whatever the issues are, or you can choose not to and throw yourself a pity party. I guarantee you, moping around over your insecurities is far more unattractive than however small you think your **** is and it certainly won't help things get better. If someone else was "better" then figure out where you are going wrong and work on that. At least the practice is fun. The acceptance and talking to figure things out (with a MC), not so much.
 

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I had an ex BF who constantly put me down and i got tired of it and when he pushed me too far one day I told him that he was "tiny". he threw me into the truck and he threw the Louisville Slugger in the back - I heard it thud, thud, thud as it bounced in the truck bed from his throw. 9mm on his belt. Nearest neighbors probably a half mile away. Drove me to the barn out back and took care of business. I learned my lesson that night. I thank my God every day that I survived that night.
 

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We've both had plenty of other partners, and some have been "better" in one particular way or another. Overall, however, no one else has ever been better for her, and overall, no one else has been better for me. We were involved in swinging, so we've both actually seen each other with bigger, prettier, younger, fitter - as well as smaller, plainer, older, etc. We've both had a lot of fun and pleasure with most of these people, too - variety in itself is exciting most of the time, even if there isn't anything else all that special about the encounter. Experience proves that bigger isn't necessarily better or more satisfying, and prettier or younger isn't always sexier - and many other things along these lines. There is no reason to get hung up on such things, because we choose to be together and because we're clearly the best match for each other.
 

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No I've never said it....even when he deserved it. I won't open the comparison can of worms though he was trying to manipulate me by telling me about a past lover.
 

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Another thread prompted me to ask.

Did you ever tell your husband that another guy in your past was "bigger" or "better" ??

What was his reaction? If there was resulting destruction of your relationship, did you overcome it ? How ?
Mrs. Conan let slip one time that her first husband was HUGE! We were having a comfortable conversation about such things in regards to general relationships and sex. From the look on her face I gathered it was quite an ordeal to accommodate him and, from everything else I gathered, she wasn't very satisfied in bed with him.

I wasn't bothered for a moment because I am convinced I am ten times the man he is in every category.

She was married to him for two years and the last year was rather unpleasant altogether.

She had been with me around 18-20 years at the time of the conversation and I settled any issues about sexual fulfillment the first week we were together.

She has never hinted or said anyone has ever been a better lover than me and has said the opposite often.

If she had let me know someone was better, I would have figured out why and covered that base. Not for anything as simple as ego, but I really enjoy pleasing my mate.

I've never been too concerned about size because I haven't observed that women, in general, are overwhelmed sexually by big wangs.
 

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My wife was “rather experienced” before we got together (fully disclosed prior to marriage). Statistically I know I’m not the biggest or the smallest, but she maintains a **** is **** when erect. And she is an expert.

It’s kind of like retro active jealousy, I don’t get it, she picked me and my **** period, take it or leave it.
 

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I had an ex BF who constantly put me down and i got tired of it and when he pushed me too far one day I told him that he was "tiny". he threw me into the truck and he threw the Louisville Slugger in the back - I heard it thud, thud, thud as it bounced in the truck bed from his throw. 9mm on his belt. Nearest neighbors probably a half mile away. Drove me to the barn out back and took care of business. I learned my lesson that night. I thank my God every day that I survived that night.
So what is the moral?

Don't talk about sexual pasts?

or...don't date and have sex with psychotic losers?

I'm sure if you date a psychopath a lot of stories are going to have psycho endings.
 

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Guys, if you wife/GF/SO ever says that a past lover was "bigger" or "better" the best response is this......look her directly in the eyes and say "Even a 747 looks small in the Grand Canyon". That will end the discussion quickly.
 

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No, I think no, what is the purpose of saying something like this?
He however has told me when things were bad in our marriage, I could get a better man than him. It was a manipulation game of course. pfft
 

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Drove me to the barn out back and took care of business. I learned my lesson that night.
I learn more about you as time goes on. I'm so very sorry to learn these details, you had alluded to this sometime ago but I didn't understand the circumstances.

I want you to know that I pray for you and your husband. There is a part of me (the one who grew up in the "bible belt") who thinks you should tell your husband. However, as time goes on, I more fully understand your stance on it, and I become less and less sure of my own stance.

And, interestingly enough, that same part of me knows that God can make your marriage wonderful. This is what I ask Him for, for y'all (that's such a good word). That He will send y'all joy and comfort and peace, and decades ahead of rich ministry.
 

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I dont understand why any woman would say this.

I take that back. If my husband nagged and bugged me about his insecurities and insisted on dogging and asking me about such things, I would be tempted to "undersell" him. But hopefully I'd be the bigger person and refrain.

I would be much less attracted to him though. What kind of man hand-wrings to his wife about this?
 

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I learn more about you as time goes on. I'm so very sorry to learn these details, you had alluded to this sometime ago but I didn't understand the circumstances.

I want you to know that I pray for you and your husband. There is a part of me (the one who grew up in the "bible belt") who thinks you should tell your husband. However, as time goes on, I more fully understand your stance on it, and I become less and less sure of my own stance.

And, interestingly enough, that same part of me knows that God can make your marriage wonderful. This is what I ask Him for, for y'all (that's such a good word). That He will send y'all joy and comfort and peace, and decades ahead of rich ministry.
Thank you. Your very kind words and prayers are appreciated. I also appreciate your effort to better understand my situation and keep an open mind, even if we don't see it exactly the same way.

That experience taught me a lot of lessons but it does not define me. With him, physical abuse was just that one time and that ended the relationship.
 

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Another thread prompted me to ask.

Did you ever tell your husband that another guy in your past was "bigger" or "better" ??

What was his reaction? If there was resulting destruction of your relationship, did you overcome it ? How ?
I have had a few lovers who were bigger and DH knows that and has never been bothered by it. He is, hands down, no question, the best lover I have ever had and he knows that, too.

Mrs. Conan let slip one time that her first husband was HUGE! We were having a comfortable conversation about such things in regards to general relationships and sex. From the look on her face I gathered it was quite an ordeal to accommodate him and, from everything else I gathered, she wasn't very satisfied in bed with him.
As I said above, I have had 3 lovers who were very well endowed. 2 of the 3 were just bad. The 3rd was whole package porn star sex.

I've talked about this with rl friends over margarita's and most of them have said that huge wang's they've encountered in the wild were attached to men who weren't exactly good, either.

The general consensus we've reached over the years is that a LOT of men with large tools think their tool is God's gift to tool boxes and all they need to do is breathe and be erect. Most, we concluded, are not good at kissing or foreplay and not very good at sex, either, because they think their size somehow compensates for laziness and/or ignorance. Spoiler: It doesn't.
 

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I have had a few lovers who were bigger and DH knows that and has never been bothered by it. He is, hands down, no question, the best lover I have ever had and he knows that, too.



As I said above, I have had 3 lovers who were very well endowed. 2 of the 3 were just bad. The 3rd was whole package porn star sex.

I've talked about this with rl friends over margarita's and most of them have said that huge wang's they've encountered in the wild were attached to men who weren't exactly good, either.

The general consensus we've reached over the years is that a LOT of men with large tools think their tool is God's gift to tool boxes and all they need to do is breathe and be erect. Most, we concluded, are not good at kissing or foreplay and not very good at sex, either, because they think their size somehow compensates for laziness and/or ignorance. Spoiler: It doesn't.
So I'm left to wonder what is cause and effect here.

Who's telling these men that their extra size is everything they need to be good lovers? What feedback loop in reinforcing their poor performance? Because the single most regurgitated claim I hear about this topic is "size doesn't matter".
 

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I have had a few lovers who were bigger and DH knows that and has never been bothered by it. He is, hands down, no question, the best lover I have ever had and he knows that, too.



As I said above, I have had 3 lovers who were very well endowed. 2 of the 3 were just bad. The 3rd was whole package porn star sex.

I've talked about this with rl friends over margarita's and most of them have said that huge wang's they've encountered in the wild were attached to men who weren't exactly good, either.

The general consensus we've reached over the years is that a LOT of men with large tools think their tool is God's gift to tool boxes and all they need to do is breathe and be erect. Most, we concluded, are not good at kissing or foreplay and not very good at sex, either, because they think their size somehow compensates for laziness and/or ignorance. Spoiler: It doesn't.
LoL! I wish Mrs. Conan had a better time with Mr. Big. Bad sex just sucks. I'm just not bothered if she enjoyed sex a lot with past partners. Sex should feel good when so much in this world doesn't.
 
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