Hi all... so my finacee and I have been making really great changes in the way we handle our communication and I very happy with it. We have talked the last two days and I have let out alot of thoughts that i feel are true but was always scared to talk about. I mentioned how i felt that she acts like she does truly want to move forward with me most of time but equally and more so than often acts like she still wants to be single.... I did let her know during our talk that would tolerate that from her or anyone else. I didn't get down on one knee to be solo...
so my tnd houghts today and the last few days are this:
Is her fear of commitment and intimacy too much right now?
Can I trust someone who acts this way fully?
How do she expect for me to give in to her fully if she is always holding back ( in the affection and communication dept)
She tells me that she is in love with me and then she said that her biggest fear with me was this: if she decides to go out with her friends that I will have a fit about it....I let her know that being that way was the the person I used to be and I have enough trust to know that she would not cross any lines while out with her girlfriends. I truly have been meditating and doing a lot of reading that is helping me to be a better man and she notices it , so my question on this one is : if this is her biggest fear about me, and I have assured her that this will not be an issue, do you think that she is taking this as a "green light" to do whatever she wants while out without me? or am I being overtrusting in thinking that she will not try to act "single" ?
I just want to get insight from anyone who has experienced anything similiar to this.....I want to be sure before i take the steps to get married.....her train of thought is what worries me the most...its unstable......
peace
so my tnd houghts today and the last few days are this:
Is her fear of commitment and intimacy too much right now?
Can I trust someone who acts this way fully?
How do she expect for me to give in to her fully if she is always holding back ( in the affection and communication dept)
She tells me that she is in love with me and then she said that her biggest fear with me was this: if she decides to go out with her friends that I will have a fit about it....I let her know that being that way was the the person I used to be and I have enough trust to know that she would not cross any lines while out with her girlfriends. I truly have been meditating and doing a lot of reading that is helping me to be a better man and she notices it , so my question on this one is : if this is her biggest fear about me, and I have assured her that this will not be an issue, do you think that she is taking this as a "green light" to do whatever she wants while out without me? or am I being overtrusting in thinking that she will not try to act "single" ?
I just want to get insight from anyone who has experienced anything similiar to this.....I want to be sure before i take the steps to get married.....her train of thought is what worries me the most...its unstable......
peace