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My beard will not stop growing, but i pick up a razor at least daily. Same way a woman can find a Dr. that will prescribe HRT correctly and make it much less or just a speed bump in her relationship.

My wife was diagnosed mildly bipolar. Yeah right! Her oncologist called BS. She said there are soo many women mis-diagnosed as bi-polar when it is nothing more than their hormones are jacked up. Level up the hormones and it is smooth sailing. Unless she really is bat crap crazy...then you are screwed.
To be honest, women do and doctors know ****** all. I took bioidentical HRT on recommendation of my doctor, supposedly an expert in the field, well known , attended conferences, gave papers, etc. and told me that every woman was different and that it was a process of hit and miss to find the right balance of HRT! so go figure. A bit like men with testosterone problems who go for injections, etc. and still cannot get it up. Then we ought to blame the man then, he didn't try hard enough, he didn't visit enough doctors, etc?
 

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To be honest, women do and doctors know ** all. I took bioidentical HRT on recommendation of my doctor, supposedly an expert in the field, well known , attended conferences, gave papers, etc. and told me that every woman was different and that it was a process of hit and miss to find the right balance of HRT! so go figure. A bit like men with testosterone problems who go for injections, etc. and still cannot get it up. Then we ought to blame the man then, he didn't try hard enough, he didn't visit enough doctors, etc?
The Dr that did my wifes hystorectomy gave her base dosage and told her to adjust a little here and there until she finds the dosage that best suits her. She is dialed in, sometimes she needs a bit more Testosterone so she applys it. She uses bioidentical compounded cream.

I have been on HRT for 13 yrs. If i could no longer get it up i would even go to surgery for implant to be able to satisfy my wife. Her needs are that important to me.
 

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When I experienced that issue (and couldn't take anymore), I studied up and implemented the 180.
After three days, she came to me in tears.
We sat down and discussed solutions and came up with a plan.
Very few problems since.
 

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I'd just like to sleep in a warm room.
But what Aine is talking about ""Menopause means the end of the hormones that have boosted communication circuits, emotion circuits, the drive to tend and care, "" that has been going on for years. monosyllables and grunts, that's the new conversation.
 

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I'd just like to sleep in a warm room.
But what Aine is talking about ""Menopause means the end of the hormones that have boosted communication circuits, emotion circuits, the drive to tend and care, "" that has been going on for years. monosyllables and grunts, that's the new conversation.
You can buy that and use it as an excuse, but that's a fantasy.

There are literally millions of post menopausal women who are warm, loving, caring, nurturing, emotional, and excellent communicators.
 

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You can buy that and use it as an excuse, but that's a fantasy.

There are literally millions of post menopausal women who are warm, loving, caring, nurturing, emotional, and excellent communicators.
Oh, you two are fighting over that point, I'll just keep my hand out of it.

My wife doesn't talk to ne because:
a) her emotions are tied up in her emotional / physical affair (if any) and she has no energy for me.
b) the same hormone ****tail that makes her hot or hotter, makes her not want to talk.
c) She's just tired of my ****.
d) (my favorite) her porn use has used up all of her sexual / emotional energy. And it's a whole lot easier than talking to real people.
 

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Oh, you two are fighting over that point, I'll just keep my hand out of it.

My wife doesn't talk to ne because:
a) her emotions are tied up in her emotional / physical affair (if any) and she has no energy for me.
b) the same hormone ****tail that makes her hot or hotter, makes her not want to talk.
c) She's just tired of my ****.
d) (my favorite) her porn use has used up all of her sexual / emotional energy. And it's a whole lot easier than talking to real people.
And none of that is "because menopause".
 

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You can buy that and use it as an excuse, but that's a fantasy.

There are literally millions of post menopausal women who are warm, loving, caring, nurturing, emotional, and excellent communicators.
Exactly. As I read that quote above, I thought, I know SO many post menopausal women who are sweet and loving to everyone around them, my grandmother was one of them.

My mother, on the other hand, was selfish and critical BEFORE menopause, and had a terrible attitude when she went through it.
 

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You can buy that and use it as an excuse, but that's a fantasy.

There are literally millions of post menopausal women who are warm, loving, caring, nurturing, emotional, and excellent communicators.
true @Livvie, the reality is that there are a lot of factors, menopause is only one of them and not all women or their spouses will have the same experience with menopause. However, that does not mean menopause should be discounted entirely. In fact I believe it is one of the reasons why there is a much higher rate of women filing for divorce at this stage of life. Kids are gone, she no longer has to keep the peace and pretend that what mattered to her doesn't matter. If she was in a loving supportive relationship all along, then that love and support will probably continue with a few ups and downs but if she wasn't then all bets are off. What I am saying is that if the marriage was crappy to begin with it will be even crappier with menopause as the wife will have far less tolerance for ******** and then things will escalate.
 

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You can buy that and use it as an excuse, but that's a fantasy.

There are literally millions of post menopausal women who are warm, loving, caring, nurturing, emotional, and excellent communicators.
And he isn't married to any of them, just to his wife. So although true I'm not entirely convinced that is relevant?
 

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To be honest, women do and doctors know ** all. I took bioidentical HRT on recommendation of my doctor, supposedly an expert in the field, well known , attended conferences, gave papers, etc. and told me that every woman was different and that it was a process of hit and miss to find the right balance of HRT! so go figure. A bit like men with testosterone problems who go for injections, etc. and still cannot get it up. Then we ought to blame the man then, he didn't try hard enough, he didn't visit enough doctors, etc?
As a matter of fact, yes we should blame the man, he didnt try hard enough etc. A person will work hard to fix what is important for them. Maybe fail, but trying shows what they value. If a person has any other chronic medical problem they spend lot of energy and money to rectify it. Sexual disfunction is no different.
 

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You can buy that and use it as an excuse, but that's a fantasy.

There are literally millions of post menopausal women who are warm, loving, caring, nurturing, emotional, and excellent communicators.
My W is one. After a short hot flash couple months, and our mutual agreement we knew we would ride it out, got through it. No worries. And although a bit less frequent we still had a good sex life through that life stage.
 

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I still don’t understand why women is allowed to be in constant bad mood 1 whole week out of the month?
I don’t see women yelling at their bosses during that week, why it’s ok for them to yell at home when they are “moody”?
If you are saying no sex for that week because she is not in the mood, then ok, can’t fight that. But at least act like a decent normal human being, instead of acting like I owe her money and can’t afford to make it back.
just sayin’ ok, I guess you get the picture of what’s going on around here. Haha
 

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If this doesn't stop she might continue being disrespectful even after her menopause passes, she will get used to you being a push-over!
My advice is to do what my older brother did, and it worked!
He made it clear to his wife that he will not accept any more disrespect, she didn't stop, while she had her outburst again he stood and after she finished he told her are you done? and calmly walked and packed a bag and left the house, as he was leaving he said to her exactly two things:
1- He will not be in a marriage where he is disrespected.
2- He will later come to pick up his remaining things.
She was in a complete shock and started to apologize, begging him to stay she even tried to block the door, he went away for a week, she didn't even know where he was (I did) and he never responded to her messages or calls, he simply ghosted her completely!
She was calling me every day crying and asking me to intervene, they have 3 kids, the kids got very angry at their mom and were asking her all the time where is dad!
Just before he returned he made it clear that he has Zero tolerance for disrespect and if it happens again he will leave and never return!
After this incident she never ever disrespected him again not willingly at least and always apologized if she felt she did!
The kids learned to not tolerate and accept such an abuse in a relationship under any label!

You might wonder why she didn't control herself before and now she can while still going through her menopause? because this time she was more aware of her behaviour and how it will affect the people around her, she knows she cant just do and say what she wants and have no consequences. the same when she goes out and interact with people outside, does you wife do this crap to other people or at shops or at work?

Ok, can she do these outburst with her boss at work?! I bet you not Why?! because she knows there will be consequences!
Then how can she have more respect to her boss but not her husband?!
How the f*** can she control her moods at work but craps on every one at home?!
Why do it to the person who loves you and cares about you?!


Simple, because that person (the husband) never shows her any consequences for her bad behaviour (he is push-over and a doormat) and makes excuses such as:


Before you plan something like my brother you should talk to her first in a loving caring way and make it clear that her behaviour is affecting you and you will not tolerate any more disrespect from her.
If she can meet her bosses expectations at work she should be able to do the same for her loving husband at home!
My brother stayed in an Airbnb for a week, I offered him to come over to my place but he didn't want to because my wife is a good friends to his.
He read like 3 relationship books with his kindle while he was staying there.

The key point is not to scream at her or disrespect your wife, but you must always act strong, calm and decisive (I know you British men are very calm and always afraid to rock the relationship boat :) )

I have a huge circle of friends here in Germany and the UK (I worked in London for many many years), and I can confirm that the men that had the balls to stand up for themselves and were strong and decisive are married happily to this day, the others who were afraid, and very nice (Nice Guys) are the ones that got divorced by their wives, and some of them got cheated on horribly.

She will be more attracted to you on so many levels when you show strength and decisiveness, women are very attracted to men who take what they want and have zero tolerance for bull s***!
Women hate Nice Guys, push-overs, passive men and cowards who don't stand up for themselves!
You can do it, just set the boundaries, and enforce it!

Good luck!
I like this! When my ex acted up and was rude I told HER to leave and waited her out until she asked to come back. She wasn't happy and I imagine resented me for a while. But never did it again.
 
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