Good question. He is not physically violent but does have aggressive tendencies if that makes sense. Sadly, my childhood experience and upbringing has played a role in this. My mother put up with tons of abuse and though I promised not to follow in her footsteps, I see that the apple didn't fall far from the tree. Fortunately, I have resources that are helping me break away from this cycle of abuse.Is there violence?
When he says he won’t allow you to leave, what was life like during the times you were separated, did he harass you? Did you leave or ‘escape’?
Do you have supportive parents or did you come from an abusive controlling background?