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I don't think it's unreasonable to 'not be yourself' after your best friend dies so suddenly. You said it's been 'almost a year' which means less than a year. That's not long. Some people cope with death better than others. Some don't.

I'm not sure why you think breaking up your family while having a 4 year old is a good idea. You're not exactly being 'abused'. Sure the relationship feels abusive and highly neglectful, but at least there is a very good reason for it. There really is not much to hold against your husband in this situation.