You don't mention how much time you have invested in your relationship, whether you thought about marriage, whether you're living together, etc. So I would guess it would depend on what type of commitment the two of you had, as to how bad this may effect you. Perhaps you just didn't have enough time or investment for it to be terribly devastating.
Speaking for myself as a betrayed spouse with a 24 year marriage and a "as bad as it gets" betrayal; I found the first few weeks were less painful than the following months (it's been a year). I attribute most of that to the hysterical bonding and early mistakes I made following my discovery. Including holding myself as partially responsible.
As I learned more about the mind set of cheating partners and that this wasn't my fault, I wised up and woke up. There was more pain after those first few weeks, but I realized that's part of the healing process that must occur for a successful reconciliation.
Make sure that you don't rug sweep this and that she remains remorseful. If I were you, I'd be monitoring her for a while before I would make a long term commitment. You're lucky in a sense that you're not married and have no children (I assume).
Good luck.
P.S. Just read your earlier posts and see that this is a long term relationship with kids. All the more important to look for that remorseful behavior from her.
Speaking for myself as a betrayed spouse with a 24 year marriage and a "as bad as it gets" betrayal; I found the first few weeks were less painful than the following months (it's been a year). I attribute most of that to the hysterical bonding and early mistakes I made following my discovery. Including holding myself as partially responsible.
As I learned more about the mind set of cheating partners and that this wasn't my fault, I wised up and woke up. There was more pain after those first few weeks, but I realized that's part of the healing process that must occur for a successful reconciliation.
Make sure that you don't rug sweep this and that she remains remorseful. If I were you, I'd be monitoring her for a while before I would make a long term commitment. You're lucky in a sense that you're not married and have no children (I assume).
Good luck.
P.S. Just read your earlier posts and see that this is a long term relationship with kids. All the more important to look for that remorseful behavior from her.
