Is anyone there dating while your ex is still pressuring you to go back to him/her? How is it working? Tough? How can you handle it? Especially if you have kids together?
He can't force me to go back to him you are right EW, but also he is the father of my kids, i will always need to deal with him. If i can help him to not fall back into depression or threatening to suicide it will be better. I also don't need to be pushed to get a restraining order, that's why I am going slowly.You are single. There's no need to be discrete. Simply don't have any conversations with him. If you have to due to kids, as soon as he gets off track, just take it back to the subject you need to resolve then hang up, walk away, etc. There is no need to be drug back if you're sure after 2 years that you have no chance of getting back together.
At first you won't be happy knowing she found someone else. A few days afterwards the anger/jealousy will wear off upon realizing now she's someone else's problem. Then you'll buy a bmw and an audi and a range rover, then build a nice modern house and totally reinvent yourself, and she'll try getting back with you but you will have fully moved on and her moves will have no effect on you.i was thinking this today. i have been seperated from ex wife for 10 months now. first 8 months i did not date as it was to soon, howveer the last 2 months i have been seeing someone.
the ex wife does not know, we also get a long ok still however i reckon if she finds out or i tell her she will be so bitter and a *****.
whereas i beleive id be happy if she found someone else.
I'm not waiting for a divorce seeing as we are 5,000 miles apart and he is going to fight me tooth and nail against divorce, so i will be dating before divorce, i will be ****ing before divorce damn right i will be, will i be telling him, for god sake no.I think the only time an ex needs to be told about a new partner in your life is when that partner starts spending a significant amount of time with your child. I also don''t think it is a good idea to start dating until the divorce is final. Don't drag a third party into any drama....
coughs, sounds like you are trying to convince yourself, snickers.At first you won't be happy knowing she found someone else. A few days afterwards the anger/jealousy will wear off upon realizing now she's someone else's problem. Then you'll buy a bmw and an audi and a range rover, then build a nice modern house and totally reinvent yourself, and she'll try getting back with you but you will have fully moved on and her moves will have no effect on you.
THEN you can feel happy (and hope) she found someone else and it's all good from there. :smthumbup:
No LVS - once the divorce is final that's it, game over, he had his chance and threw it away. You are completely free to do what you want. You don't have to date in secret, but at the same time showing some class and not rubbing his nose in it would be best.We are divorced since almost 2 years and got the church annulment 2 weeks ago but my ex is still not admitting the situation and still every once in a while tries to drag me back to the relationship. I feel bad if i want to date and i feel like if i am cheating. I need to do things discretely so he won't find out.
I second that sister. I have no desire to date someone else for a VERY long time. I'm going to need it to get over the lies, deception and manipulation my STBHX has dealt out for years. Right now I'm really happy being alone.I feel sorry for anyone who has the misfortune to hook up with my STBXH. I'm hoping I won't be seeing or hearing much from him in any case.
I have no plans to date and if I do, my kids won't see or hear much about it. My daughter says she would be happy to see me with someone who made me happy but I think it might be hard on my son, and he's had enough of a hard time.
That said, if the right person comes along and wants to have some fun then I'm game but I'm def not into getting into any serious relationship.
I guess I'll just play it by ear,