PLAYA Alert!! PLAYA Alert!!
Allow me to translate LiarSpeak for you, Costa.Is there something wrong with this scenario?
"I would like to settle for you when I am done chasing anyone else who attracts my attention; and when I am sure I can't get anyone hotter than you. You are my Plan B."He told me he would like to settle down when he is sure that we are truly right for each other
"I don't value you enough to want to be exclusive with you, so don't get the wrong idea that you're 'special', because you're not. But I'd still like to fvck you when I can!"meanwhile I am free to date anyone I like.
I can't agree with this point. I've found that sex is one of the important ways a man decides whether a woman is worth being with. Bad sex will equal a quick fade even after they've become exclusive.If you are looking for a relationship with more substance, keep sex off of the table for a while with the next guy until you are more exclusive.
I disagree with the above bolded part. I didn't have sex with my husband prior to marriage, not because I wasn't into him, but because of a vow that I made not only to myself, but to my faith. It was hard, and we crossed some lines, but didn't have sex. Now of course this is not true for everyone, but I disagree that it says that you're not into them.I can't agree with this point. I've found that sex is one of the important ways a man decides whether a woman is worth being with. Bad sex will equal a quick fade even after they've become exclusive.
Plus, people fall for people who are "into" them. Withholding sex for some arbitrary point is just a way of saying, "I'm not that into you."
As one of the five pillars of compatibility, I would encourage you to do whatever feels natural to you sexually, but remain aware that you are still learning about areas that you are or are not compatible on.
he is probably already doing that! Please make sure you dont give so much into this 'relationship' that it could leave you hurt.meanwhile I am free to date anyone I like.
I agree with this. I think men in particular will avoid the Friendzone better when they insist on progressing physical affection..... that is holding hands, kissing and so on. If a woman doesn't like doing those things with him, she is letting him know that she just thinks of him as a friend.I can't agree with this point. I've found that sex is one of the important ways a man decides whether a woman is worth being with. Bad sex will equal a quick fade even after they've become exclusive.
Plus, people fall for people who are "into" them. Withholding sex for some arbitrary point is just a way of saying, "I'm not that into you."
As one of the five pillars of compatibility, I would encourage you to do whatever feels natural to you sexually, but remain aware that you are still learning about areas that you are or are not compatible on.
I have to articles on my blog related to this topic that can help you decide how long you should or shouldn't wait:
How Soon Should You Have Sex in a New Relationship?
5 Pillars of Compatibility (& Incompatibility)
Hmmmm. I think you should be thankful that you've only invested a few months in this person, and you should also be thankful for his mislaid honesty.I feel heartbroken.
I dated this guy for 5 months and we have a good sexual relationship. He told me he would like to settle down when he is sure that we are truly right for each other, meanwhile I am free to date anyone I like.
Is there something wrong with this scenario? I went through a hard divorce and I cannot handle another drama. Should I walk away from this new relationship before it kills me?
Perhaps. However, many women (particularly young women) bond with men during sex, and this can cause an unhealthy dynamic if the guy is still playing the field. Besides which, if the guy isn't practising safe sex with his other partners, it can be downright dangerous.I can't agree with this point. I've found that sex is one of the important ways a man decides whether a woman is worth being with. Bad sex will equal a quick fade even after they've become exclusive.
That's what happens when you don't set the boundaries clear since the beginning and you don't know what you're looking for from each other...then you find yourself being partners with benefits.I feel heartbroken.
I dated this guy for 5 months and we have a good sexual relationship. He told me he would like to settle down when he is sure that we are truly right for each other, meanwhile I am free to date anyone I like.
Is there something wrong with this scenario? I went through a hard divorce and I cannot handle another drama. Should I walk away from this new relationship before it kills me?
Nobody was suggesting that the OP should have waited to marry this guy to have sex with him but having exclusive sex and shared sex are two different things.I can't agree with this point. I've found that sex is one of the important ways a man decides whether a woman is worth being with. Bad sex will equal a quick fade even after they've become exclusive.