Dont do it to yourself or to him. Focus on you and what you feel like you need to do. Being..even talking to someone else is a unwise attempt to fill the hole you have in your heart. Focus on yourself and get yourself healed from this situation, and then you can make better decisions. Once you get thru this and heal from the pain it will be time to look into other relationships. No need to complicate your life or anyone else's at this point. One step at a time. A rebound relationship is what this has the potential to be and isn't fair to anyone involved. be honest and let him know whale you are flattered, that the timing isn't right for you. That you need to deal with the relationship you are letting go.okay so here's my story. My husband and & I have been together for 8 years married for 2. We have a 2 year old son together. In July I filed for divorce because he stopped communicating, staying out all night and leaving, not picking up the phone, hanging up on me, hiding his phone etc. He was basically treating me like crap so I filed. Well then after I filed I found some things around the house that weren't mine such as some hair ties and a cell phone. Then I saw him and a woman together standing by his car. He continued to talk to her or see her but denied there was a relationship. She also denied it but I'm not dumb. Our lease was up at the end of august in our rental house so I found another house for me and our son. Well husband didnt have anywhere to stay so he came crying and crawling back. I have been letting him stay here now. He has been laid off and his unemployment ran out a few weeks ago. I continued to find out he was still talking to her. Even 2 weeks ago there were texts between them. I'm so fed up and have been trying to make it work. I put our divorce and court date on hold to work on it and then I keep finding out he's hidng things.
Last night at work I ran into a medical student who was asking me some questions about my patient. We saw each other the day before when he was making rounds with the dr. we had a pretty nice convo and at the end he asked me to coffee next week and for my number. I panicked. It has been so long since anyone has asked me out. I dont even remember how to date or if I should.I didnt want to reject him so I gave it to him. Do I go to coffee or no? When do I tell him I'm married going through a divorce and have a kid? I'm afraid he is just going to run away if I tell him but I dont want to get him involved in my complicated life. Is it just too much right now? He seems very interesting. He has been texting me all day. What is he gonna think? I'm 25 and have a 2 year old and getting divorced. Should I just text him and tell him ahead of time? I would think in person is better or just cancel.
I love my husband but I feel like giving up. I'm so hurt and dont want to do this anymore. Just want to be treated like a wife and loved. If I wait until the divorce is final to date, it could be a long time.