I had to just pick a date and go for it. Mister is being served on the 16th. I plan on taking the girls to my dad's when he is served, and blocking his number temporarily while he cools down. I will ask his mom and cousin to come over that evening to give him support right after he is served. Nobody in his family knows because they all have big mouths. I've let a few trusted people know, and my co-workers are on standby in cast things go really wrong.
My terms are this:
He keeps all of his guns, 401k, tackle, furniture, appliances, cash, truck, boats, jewelry, camper, and all the tools. I don't want to take anything of his. No allimony/maintenance, and he pays minimum child support of $979, which I feel is too high. I was hoping to petition for $600 but was told "NO" by literally everyone. But he will only have 2 years on the older girl at least. His schedule with them will be every other weekend, plus one-on-one time with each during the week, 2 weeks over summer, Father's day no matter whose weekend it is, 4th of July no matter what (its his favorite holiday) and Christmas Eve, plus 'any other times as agreed upon when scheduled in advance.' I also wrote up that taking them during hunting season is optional because nobody exists to him from Oct to Nov anyway.
I keep the house and of course assume all of the burden, but wrote up that I will give him 40% of the equity if I ever sell. The market is a high sellers market, but where does one go if the rest of the houses are super expensive? I can afford the payment and its better for the girls to stay in their home. The only items I'm requesting to keep are my car, stock trailer, pistol, 401k, animals, and the bedroom furniture set.
Does this sound fair? I have no interest in being greedy and the 40% more than makes up the difference in value of our stuff being split, but will continue to grow. Although there's quite a bit of equity in the house, I don't care to sell it.
He has a piece of property ready for a manufactured home of park model. (He owned it before we were married). Shop, well, and septic are already there. But he really needs to just live with his mom. He still pays her to do his laundry.
I am scared of the reaction. I really don't think he has a clue whats coming. But it has to end. His actions towards me have put in a dark state and has affected how I work and my overall enjoyment in life.
I just want peace.
My terms are this:
He keeps all of his guns, 401k, tackle, furniture, appliances, cash, truck, boats, jewelry, camper, and all the tools. I don't want to take anything of his. No allimony/maintenance, and he pays minimum child support of $979, which I feel is too high. I was hoping to petition for $600 but was told "NO" by literally everyone. But he will only have 2 years on the older girl at least. His schedule with them will be every other weekend, plus one-on-one time with each during the week, 2 weeks over summer, Father's day no matter whose weekend it is, 4th of July no matter what (its his favorite holiday) and Christmas Eve, plus 'any other times as agreed upon when scheduled in advance.' I also wrote up that taking them during hunting season is optional because nobody exists to him from Oct to Nov anyway.
I keep the house and of course assume all of the burden, but wrote up that I will give him 40% of the equity if I ever sell. The market is a high sellers market, but where does one go if the rest of the houses are super expensive? I can afford the payment and its better for the girls to stay in their home. The only items I'm requesting to keep are my car, stock trailer, pistol, 401k, animals, and the bedroom furniture set.
Does this sound fair? I have no interest in being greedy and the 40% more than makes up the difference in value of our stuff being split, but will continue to grow. Although there's quite a bit of equity in the house, I don't care to sell it.
He has a piece of property ready for a manufactured home of park model. (He owned it before we were married). Shop, well, and septic are already there. But he really needs to just live with his mom. He still pays her to do his laundry.
I am scared of the reaction. I really don't think he has a clue whats coming. But it has to end. His actions towards me have put in a dark state and has affected how I work and my overall enjoyment in life.
I just want peace.