Crush on another woman?

I think so.

Yes.

And this is why I SWEAR all women are bi :rofl:

RandomDude, having a crush on a woman is different than wanting to have sex with her. I have been attracted to women...but ew...I like penis.

Men don't have crushes or attraction on other guys when they are straight

Ask any straight guy out there! lol
So unless there's a good excuse to justify the double standard, think I'll remain convinced lol

Do what you want. I'd never lick a vagina. Ever. Nor am I sexually attracted to women. It's just an attraction to get to know them. I think men DO get crushes. They meet someone they think is cool and talk about their friend 24/7. A crush is just admiring someone. What's the big deal. It's when you want MORE that it's a problem.

Ah... well, I don't think OP meant a crush as in simple admiration lol

I think the reason that straight men don't have crush on other men is because it's socially reprehensible. You're the one to penetrate, if you have a crush on another penetrator, than it means you'd like to be penetrated. And oooh how emasculating that would be.

I think that a crush is a degree of beauty appreciation, and in that same case, I think I had many male crushes. Just because I like to admire beauty.
I don't worry for my straightness since I feel it should only be a matter between me and the one that I'd like to penetrate. ^^

EDIT: I'm sorry for not answering to the main question. Yes, it's totally normal. But if you're committed to a relationship, don't let it stray too far.

Darn it... if my wife reads this thread then it's...

Wifey - 1
Me - 0

No fair!

Ive seen a married woman who it really did appear to have a crush on a girl in her group of friends. If Id replaced the female who she'd had a crush on with a guy any bystander would have said yep she fancies him. She coloured up he neck was reddening, she handled and continued to touch her hair, she was touchy feelie - the full episode So i do beleive that a woman can have an crush (attraction) even if shes never even been curious. By the way the womans H was there and he saw it as well....... Awkward silence between them during the rest of the night and only she didnt realise we all saw it.
There is a difference between admiration and a crush (IMO)

Yeah, I know some may say I'm a pig, but this sounds hot.

that_girl said:

Do what you want. I'd never lick a vagina. Ever. Nor am I sexually attracted to women. It's just an attraction to get to know them. I think men DO get crushes. They meet someone they think is cool and talk about their friend 24/7. A crush is just admiring someone. What's the big deal. It's when you want MORE that it's a problem.

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That Girl,

While I think you have a few valid points in the statement above, I think where we differ is the fact that when a man "crushes" on a woman, they want to have sex with her and to us (at least all the guys I know) that what makes it a crush.

When we meet guys who we think are cool, we do talk about them alot but we don't want to have sex with them so not a crush!

Some Advice from someone who's been there.
I had a crush on a woman and I was very confused about why or what I was feeling. It scared me to death. I have always admired other Women and still do but really think about what you want from her! Do you want to kiss her? Do you want to preform sexual acts with her? Maybe you are lonely and vulnerable and this Woman is giving you the attention that you are not getting from your Man. If she is a Lesbian be careful that she is not taking advantage of you. Women that are gay do that to straight Women all the time. Please think this through very carefully before you get over your head.

My wife says she thinks lesbianism is disgusting however since coming to this forum and discovering what EA's are I can tell you that she has had at least 3 EA's with other women. When she was wrapped up in them it was as if I did not exist and then it would just flame out.

What I would give to be able to have the kind of emotional intimacy she has shared with other women.

I think it depends on what you mean by crush. Like it was said straight men don't have crushes on other men ,therefore a straight woman cannot have a crush on another woman.

Susanbee,what exactly are you feeling? Are you sexually attracted to her? Admire her? What are you feeling?

RClawson said:

My wife says she thinks lesbianism is disgusting however since coming to this forum and discovering what EA's are I can tell you that she has had at least 3 EA's with other women. When she was wrapped up in them it was as if I did not exist and then it would just flame out.

What I would give to be able to have the kind of emotional intimacy she has shared with other women.

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My word this hit home today!

I suspect many men will think about issue they may have seen in respect of their female partners. I really (if you are open to it) think a post regarding would be of use to some .. me included as Ive suspected my W has been in an EA in the past of this type but really doesnt/will not accept it. I thought I was out of line thinking like this and TBH I hope Im wrong as it starts pandoras box opening.
Well done for bringing this to the forum

I've mentioned it before Pault. I mentioned it to my counselor (who is a woman and I do respect her greatly) and she shrugged it off as "oh us women just have our friends". It was the only time I have been disappointed with her as a therapist.

One of my very good friends ended up divorced because his wife refused to put him and the kids before her emotional affair with another woman. 3 years later she realizes she was a complete moron and wants him back. Ain't gonna happen.

Honestly the only way I will ever win this battle is to take a drastic measure. I do see it coming but it is a bit down the road.