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Hi, I 've been lurking here for a while , trying to decide if I want to get involved .
My situation is that while I'm getting some good advice from an Individual Counselor, I would also like to get some from other people who have been in my shoes, so to speak.
I was married for 25 years, and have two kids. My ex-wife and I had , what I would have termed (until a year ago) a great marriage. Both my ex-wife and I had good jobs (She is a hospital tech and I'm a shift supervisor in a factory), plus we operated a side business (farm). We were happy, I guess, or at least I was happy, until 2 years ago. My plant began to downsize and I was forced to move to third shift to keep my job. She works evenings, so our together time was at a minimum. She complained , but there wasn't much I could do, without quitting and losing seniority and pension benefits. We began to argue a lot and and that put a further strain on us.
I got a call from one of her co-workers who informed me that she thought my wife was getting too close to another lab tech, named Brad. When we were able to get some alone time, I asked her about it, and she said that it was nothing to worry about , just friends. Because of the heads up, I began to notice some things about my wife. She was working out more, dressing nicer, and wearing more provocative undies. Since I rarely saw her after she got home from work, I don't know when she got home , at all. Our kids are all in college so there isn't anybody to say when or if she got home, after work. One thing for sure was that she would call me at first break and we would chat about stuff.
One night, two winters ago, I got sick at work and called her to say I was coming home, early. When I got home, at about 2 am, I noticed her car was still warm because the snow was melting on the hood, so she had just got home from somewhere right before I did. Now, when I called her to tell her I was coming home, she specifically told me she was home, which was clearly a lie. I didn't mention it, but I began to keep my eyes open more. This is really bothering me, so I'll finish it later.
My situation is that while I'm getting some good advice from an Individual Counselor, I would also like to get some from other people who have been in my shoes, so to speak.
I was married for 25 years, and have two kids. My ex-wife and I had , what I would have termed (until a year ago) a great marriage. Both my ex-wife and I had good jobs (She is a hospital tech and I'm a shift supervisor in a factory), plus we operated a side business (farm). We were happy, I guess, or at least I was happy, until 2 years ago. My plant began to downsize and I was forced to move to third shift to keep my job. She works evenings, so our together time was at a minimum. She complained , but there wasn't much I could do, without quitting and losing seniority and pension benefits. We began to argue a lot and and that put a further strain on us.
I got a call from one of her co-workers who informed me that she thought my wife was getting too close to another lab tech, named Brad. When we were able to get some alone time, I asked her about it, and she said that it was nothing to worry about , just friends. Because of the heads up, I began to notice some things about my wife. She was working out more, dressing nicer, and wearing more provocative undies. Since I rarely saw her after she got home from work, I don't know when she got home , at all. Our kids are all in college so there isn't anybody to say when or if she got home, after work. One thing for sure was that she would call me at first break and we would chat about stuff.
One night, two winters ago, I got sick at work and called her to say I was coming home, early. When I got home, at about 2 am, I noticed her car was still warm because the snow was melting on the hood, so she had just got home from somewhere right before I did. Now, when I called her to tell her I was coming home, she specifically told me she was home, which was clearly a lie. I didn't mention it, but I began to keep my eyes open more. This is really bothering me, so I'll finish it later.