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gBrad .... Listen to that_girl (she rocks) and talk. I know all about reactions being an absolute pain in the butt however, you truly put yourself in a no-win situation when you stuff it.

Here's the bottom line as I see it. You have to do one of two things:

1. Spit it out and deal with whatever the reaction is. Believe me, I know all about negative reactions - I have gotten SLAMMED multiple times for saying the most innocent things.

2. Let it go (as opposed to stuffing it) and never bring it up. If you stuff it, your opportunity to bring it up is gone. In reality it's not fair to her.

I spent most of my marriage being afraid to talk because I got slammed so often when I shared how I felt (yeah, that sucks - you shouldn't get slammed for saying how you feel). I was honestly afraid of losing the relationship. I've let go of that fear and I have no idea if my marriage will survive but at least I'm saying how I feel and giving her the opportunity to do something different in the future. If the marriage doesn't survive at least she won't be able to say, "Why didn't you tell me???????????"

You owe her this opportunity and the longer you wait and the more you stuff, the worse it gets.

Been there, done that, not doing it anymore.
 
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