Hi, I am new to this site. Me & my husband have been married for just 4 years and in the last 6 months to a year I have been unhappy. We started talking about having kids b/c I thought maybe this would give me what I needed to be happy again (terrible). It all came to a head when I met a guy and started having an "emotional affair" with him. He seems to be everything I've always wanted my H to be. Fun, Kind, UNcontrolling, personable, social, likes to have fun, dance and it helped he's totally into me. I stopped my contact with him when i realized what was happening and told my H. If I let this happen, having these strong feelings for someone else, something is really wrong in my marriage right? My husband is controlling, anal retentive and treats me like a child, condescending the way he talks to me, etc. This guy was the exact opposite and I can't stop thinking that I want more now. My H is also a good man, kind, supportive, would never cheat, a good provider, basic all around good guy, but the romance is GONE, I feel like he's my brother, not my lover. I need help. Is this ENOUGH to ruin a marriage that many woman would be so happy to have? Am I just selfish "wanting it all"???? I'm depressed and we're going to counseling and it's not helping me fall back in love with him yet (only been a month) ANY comments are appreciated!!!