Unless it's the ex he has kids with (sounds like not), there is no reason for them to be in contact. Outside of monitoring or being with him 24-7, there's no way for you to know what he's up to at any given moment. Even with a keylogger installed on a personal PC, he could take it further underground and never access certain things on that PC. Particularly if he's suspicious of any possible monitoring.Hey all, I have posted on here before regarding my long term partner's sometimes contact with an ex. She was and still is married. I had terrible upset when I discovered he was in contact with her via text (that I know about) in the past some of which were inappropriate texts. Long story short we had a huge blow up about it and I left. after strong assurances from him that there was nothing going on and wouldnt be I took him back.. We have gotten on wonderfully since then and he moved to my hometown far away from where she lives. (He goes back there periodically to see his daughters and for business).
There was no contact for a long time then she mailed him while on vacation asking how he was and the emails were innocent as friends. Then, the last reply I found from him to her, he told her he had gotten back with me and had moved to be with me. Actually, the content of that last email went along the lines of..." She left me, (mostly because of you and contact with you), there have been an ever increasing number of single women becoming problematic and it was not what I wanted and I didnt want to be on my own so I took the dogs and moved over to be with her. I come back periodically to see my daughters. ".... You can imagine my deep disappointment and upset that he seemed to be saying he only moved because he didtn want to be on his own when the truth is (and she would figure this out), was that he loved me and made the huge committment of moving to be with me. Now, the problem I have is that we both need to move back to his country (different area) for our work and I am so torn... I love him deeply, and I know he does me, but I simply cant get out of my head that she is still lurking in the background and i will never know if he still has contact of meets up with her. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt?? He emphatically says there is nothing between them and isn't it mature to be able to be civil if he happened to bump into her? (which I dont have a problem with if it was purely 'bumping into'). I am so confused as we have the most fantastic relationship and he clearly demonstrates he loves and cares for me deeply...
If you have to ask if you should give him the benefit of the doubt.....that pretty much answers your question right there.