My husband and I have been married 10 years (together for 18) and seem to argue all the time - about the kids, money - really, everything. There seems to be little joy between us anymore. I keep thinking I don't want to remain in a marriage like this, but my kids are 4 and 7 - and I do love my husband. We don't have sex anymore. And worse, we hardly laugh anymore. I have suggested marriage counseling but he thinks we can work it out ourselves, but we don't have the tools or communication skills to do it. I don't want a divorce - but I am not happy - and I don't think he is either - and I think our oldest son is feeling it too. I've gained 20 pounds in 2 years - I am at my wits end. Any suggestions?