Hoping someone will have advice. My best friend is having marital difficulty. She is 36, her hubby is 44. She had a miscarriage 3 yrs ago. She has always wanted to be a mother and recently they were successful...had a baby boy that's now 3 months old. They have been married for 12 yrs. She has always been submissive and does whatever he wants or says. Here are some details: He often takes solo short vacations where he supposedly meets up with friends. While 8 months pregnant her hubby went away again on vacation with a friend for 3 1/2 weeks. She was left alone at home. She forgave him. 3 wks after his return she went into premature labor. He refused to take a sick day and take her to the emergency room. He claimed that no one else would be able to cover his shift. He is in law enforcement. So I took her to the hospital. The doctors could not stop her labor so later that evening she needed to deliver the baby. She called him and told him this. He did not show up for 3 more hours, he waited until his shift was done...went home to change...then came to delivery room. Luckily the baby was born one hour later so he did not miss the birth. But she went through the entire labor basically alone..only me there holding her hand while in so much pain. Since the baby has been at home he has not been helping with baby's care. He occasionally will feed or change a diaper. He does not wake at night to help with nightly feedings. Recently they had a huge argument. He told her that he never wanted this baby, she forced this onto him. He is 44 yrs old and he does not want to disrupt his lifestyle to accommodate this child. He told her that the baby was her responsibility and when ever she needs to run errands she needs to take the baby along or drop him at the sitter because he will not disrupt his day or sleep in order to watch the child. He also told her that she needs to cook, clean, and take care of the household just as his mom did. My friend works full time and is in graduate school so she needs his help but he has made it clear that he does not want his lifestyle to change. She is depressed and cries. I don't know what to tell her.. I don't know what to do. He is emotionally abusive and I want her to throw him out! But these things I do not say. Need advice for her Please help!!!