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Hey all,
I had previously written a post about my wife’s concerning social media interactions with a guy she once dated/some comments made about a co-worker. I got some good feedback on that but the pain of it all did leave me feeling jaded about my marriage and caused me to re-evaluate things.
Mostly I’m realizing that my wife is often very reactive, unable to understand/validate my emotions/needs and can often be downright mean to me and manipulative.
My other concern is how she behaves toward our Son. That boy is the light of my life and I went through hell taking care of both him and her when she suffered from post partum and self esteem issues after having him. Instead of his birth being exciting, I found myself consoling a wife threatening to hurt herself and give up the baby.
I also ended up working remotely and taking care of a newborn while trying to maintain a house when she went back to work. My job performance suffered and everyone around me took notice of how much I was drowning except for her.
our son is 1 now and to this day I am the main caregiver who handles the night wakeups, diaper changes etc. My parents also watch the baby and I am responsible for pickup and drop off. It’s to the point where even my parents ask why doesn’t my wife help out more?
she also has a short temper with the baby and routinely yells and gets frustrated if he won’t nap when she wants or eat what she made. She loses her cool if he doesn’t just lay still for a diaper change and she curses and yells if she has to wake up in the middle of the night because he’s crying.
around the house she is also not helpful and leaves messes everywhere she goes. She barely helps with chores and I routinely come home from a late night of work to a mess. Then when I clean the place she just kind of takes that for granted and never really thanks me.
we have been attending counseling for a few months now and things get better for some time then just seem to revert back to normal.
I find that when I’m with her I feel very disconnected and even when we get time away from the baby to go out I don’t have much to say to her.
divorce has entered my mind but I’m afraid to pull the trigger. Recently I let a lot out and really expressed my concerns after a big fight.
Ever since..she is all concerned I’m going to leave, stating she is a terrible wife and mother and would understand if I wanted to be with someone who deserves me. She’s also been very paranoid and asking questions if I go out for a long run or spend too long at the grocery store.
i don’t know where to go from here as I’m hurt and feeling burnt out but don’t know if ending things is a good idea.
I had previously written a post about my wife’s concerning social media interactions with a guy she once dated/some comments made about a co-worker. I got some good feedback on that but the pain of it all did leave me feeling jaded about my marriage and caused me to re-evaluate things.
Mostly I’m realizing that my wife is often very reactive, unable to understand/validate my emotions/needs and can often be downright mean to me and manipulative.
My other concern is how she behaves toward our Son. That boy is the light of my life and I went through hell taking care of both him and her when she suffered from post partum and self esteem issues after having him. Instead of his birth being exciting, I found myself consoling a wife threatening to hurt herself and give up the baby.
I also ended up working remotely and taking care of a newborn while trying to maintain a house when she went back to work. My job performance suffered and everyone around me took notice of how much I was drowning except for her.
our son is 1 now and to this day I am the main caregiver who handles the night wakeups, diaper changes etc. My parents also watch the baby and I am responsible for pickup and drop off. It’s to the point where even my parents ask why doesn’t my wife help out more?
she also has a short temper with the baby and routinely yells and gets frustrated if he won’t nap when she wants or eat what she made. She loses her cool if he doesn’t just lay still for a diaper change and she curses and yells if she has to wake up in the middle of the night because he’s crying.
around the house she is also not helpful and leaves messes everywhere she goes. She barely helps with chores and I routinely come home from a late night of work to a mess. Then when I clean the place she just kind of takes that for granted and never really thanks me.
we have been attending counseling for a few months now and things get better for some time then just seem to revert back to normal.
I find that when I’m with her I feel very disconnected and even when we get time away from the baby to go out I don’t have much to say to her.
divorce has entered my mind but I’m afraid to pull the trigger. Recently I let a lot out and really expressed my concerns after a big fight.
Ever since..she is all concerned I’m going to leave, stating she is a terrible wife and mother and would understand if I wanted to be with someone who deserves me. She’s also been very paranoid and asking questions if I go out for a long run or spend too long at the grocery store.
i don’t know where to go from here as I’m hurt and feeling burnt out but don’t know if ending things is a good idea.